The Thais Gibson Podcast

When a Dismissive Avoidant Acts Like Your Partner… But Won’t Commit

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They text you every day, spend weekends with you, and act like you’re together, yet freeze or pull back the moment commitment comes up. Sound familiar? In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why dismissive avoidants often behave like partners without committing, revealing the emotional roadblocks, childhood conditioning, and subconscious fears driving their behavior.
You’ll also learn how to recognize the difference between emotional unavailability and genuine potential, plus practical tools to protect your heart, communicate your needs, and decide when to stay—or walk away.
You’ll learn:
✅ The four key reasons dismissive avoidants resist commitment—even when they care deeply
✅ Why emotional intimacy feels unsafe due to childhood neglect or unmet needs
✅ How vulnerability and commitment trigger subconscious fear and shame
✅ Why poor conflict-resolution skills cause long-term resentment and withdrawal
✅ How communication gaps make both partners feel misunderstood and criticized
✅ What “Integrated Attachment Theory™” teaches about repairing connection and building trust
Video Breakdown (Timestamps):00:00 – Intro00:37 – The Four Attachment Styles01:11 – 1. Emotional Connection Wasn’t Modeled in Childhood04:17 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Struggle With Vulnerability05:39 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification06:33 – 3. Why They Don’t Know How to Resolve Conflict09:46 – 4. Why They Feel Misunderstood and Criticized12:10 – Conclusion
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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They act like your partner but resist commitment. Discover the emotional patterns behind dismissive avoidant behavior and how to respond with clarity and strength. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

If An Avoidant Does These 4 Things They’re Discarding You

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Dismissive Avoidants rarely come out and say “I’m done.” Instead, they show it through subtle but powerful patterns, often long before the actual breakup happens. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the four unmistakable signs that an avoidant is emotionally checking out and shares how to protect your self-worth, regulate your nervous system, and set healthy boundaries before it’s too late.
Drawing on neuroscience and ancient wisdom, Thais explains how oxytocin drops, cortisol spikes, and emotional disconnection create chaos in relationships—and how to use self-awareness and communication to stop the spiral and regain control.
You’ll learn:
✅ The four red flags that signal a dismissive avoidant is preparing to leave✅ How “flaw finding” and subtle criticism act as deactivation strategies✅ Why they replace intimacy with creature comforts like work or hobbies✅ The neuroscience of emotional withdrawal and bonding disruption✅ How to use pattern interruption and self-regulation to stop self-blame✅ The boundaries and conversations that separate healing from heartbreak
Video Breakdown (Timestamps):00:00 – Intro00:53 – 1. If You See Them Shutting Down Emotionally01:52 – 2. If There Are Sudden Devaluing Behaviors or Comments04:59 – Attachment Styles & Intimacy Promo05:31 – 3. Replacing Intimacy with Creature Comforts06:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Relational Distress09:16 – Pattern Interrupt11:29 – Setting Clear Boundaries13:44 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration15:30 – 4. When They Stop Communicating16:41 – Conclusion
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
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When an avoidant starts to pull away, it’s not random, it’s patterned. Learn to spot the signs early and protect your peace before it’s too late. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

The Shocking Thing the Fearful Avoidant Struggles With Most!

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Many Fearful Avoidants see themselves as fiercely independent—until real feelings and vulnerability take hold. Suddenly, emotional dependency sneaks in, making it feel like you lose yourself in the relationship. If this resonates, you’re not alone—and there is a way to break free from the push-pull cycles.
In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the hidden signs of emotional dependency for Fearful Avoidants, the neuroscience and childhood roots behind it, and the exact steps you can take to heal so you can love deeply without losing yourself.
You’ll learn:✅ The 3 key signs of emotional dependency in Fearful Avoidant relationships✅ How attachment trauma in childhood wires the brain for dependency cycles✅ Why independence flips into preoccupation when real feelings develop✅ How neuroscience explains the highs, lows, and nervous system disruption the Fearful Avoidant's experience✅ 3 practical steps to heal, regulate, and create secure interdependent relationships
Episode Breakdown:00:00 – Intro 01:14 – Have You Lost Yourself in a Relationship Before? 01:41 – 1. When Feelings Get Real, You Feel You Are Over-identifying With Your Partner03:29 – 2. Although Difficult to Ask, You Seek Reassurance in a Relationship05:12 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo05:48 – 3. You Sometimes Feel Emotional Highs and Lows07:09 – The Neuroscience Behind the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style10:34 – Step 1: Learn to Meet Your Own Needs11:44 – Step 2: Have a Relationship With Yourself Outside of Your Romantic Relationship 12:53 – Step 3: Rewire Old Triggers From Past Relationships13:38 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Love14:49 – Conclusion
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
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Fearful Avoidants often feel independent until deep feelings trigger hidden emotional dependency. This episode explains why it happens and how you can heal to keep your sense of self while building healthy, lasting relationships.

Major Signs the Dismissive Avoidant Will Never Come Back

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Are you stuck in a painful cycle, wondering if your Dismissive Avoidant partner will ever come back? It’s exhausting to feel like your life is on hold, constantly walking on eggshells and hoping things will change. 
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the major signs that a Dismissive Avoidant has reached the true point of no return—so you can stop second-guessing yourself and finally get clarity.
You’ll learn the psychology, neuroscience, and relationship dynamics behind this attachment style, how to spot when healing is no longer possible, and what steps you can take to protect your peace and reclaim your life.
 
You’ll learn:✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants often leave relationships, and when they never come back✅ The “gray area” dynamic that keeps you stuck and prevents real progress✅ How conflict-avoidance and emotional suppression create walls over time✅ The neuroscience of deactivation and why it worsens if left unaddressed✅ The questions you must ask to know if true healing and reconnection are possible✅ Three powerful healing steps you can take today if you’re the loved one of a Dismissive Avoidant✅ How unmet needs and old wounds keep you chasing breadcrumbs—and how to break free
 
Episode Breakdown:00:00 – Intro 00:45 – 1. When the Emotional Disconnection is Reinforced, They No Longer Want to Connect03:21 – 2. If Dismissive Avoidants Feel Criticized, They Will Pull Away05:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo 06:11 – The Neuroscience Behind Deactivation 08:36 – Being Willing to Do the Work is a Prerequisite for Healing09:49 – Step 1: If You See This Person Withdrawing Over Time, Prepare Yourself to Heal10:23 – Step 2: “What Are the Needs That I’m So Scared of Losing?”11:06 – Step 3:  “What Wounds Are Chaining Me to This Potentially Unhealthy Situation?”12:05 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Love and Consideration 14:02 – Conclusion
 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 
🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 
 
Let’s Connect on Socials:📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 
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This episode will help you recognize when it’s time to stop waiting for change and start honoring your own needs so you can step out of painful cycles and create space for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

If A Fearful Avoidant Does THIS, They're About to Leave Suddenly

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One of the most painful experiences is when a Fearful Avoidant suddenly walks away without warning. What most people don’t realize is that there is a specific red flag that the relationship is close to ending. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down what that behavior is, why it happens, and how you can respond with clarity and self-respect.
You’ll learn the neuroscience of why Fearful Avoidants shut down, how past wounds shape their fear of vulnerability, and what to do if you notice these warning signs in your relationship. Thais also shares a simple framework you can use—whether you’re the Fearful Avoidant or their partner—to bring needs to the surface and stop the cycle of sudden exits.
 
You’ll learn:
✅ The behavior that signals a Fearful Avoidant is ready to leave✅ Why unspoken needs and unmet expectations push them toward sudden exits✅ How childhood chaos wires them to avoid expressing vulnerability✅ The neuroscience of fear, safety, and why needs feel dangerous to share✅ Why sudden breakups aren’t about you—but about unresolved conditioning✅ A practical exercise to rebuild safety and communication✅ How to know if the relationship can be repaired—or if it’s time to move on
 
Episode Breakdown:00:00 – Intro 00:37 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Struggle to Communicate Their Needs 02:05 – 2. Fearful Avoidants Pressure Themselves to Meet the Needs of Others04:05 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo 04:53 – The Neuroscience Behind Fear08:27 – Step 1. Ask Yourself, “How Much Did I Communicate My Needs?”08:55 – Step 2. “Did I Communicate in a Way That Was Likely to Be Received?”10:08 – Step 3. Do a Weekly Needs Check-in11:54 – Conclusion
 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 
🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 
 
Let’s Connect on Socials:📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 
 
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When a Fearful Avoidant leaves suddenly, it’s usually because unspoken needs and fears have quietly built up until they shut down completely. Learning the red flags and creating space for open, healthy communication, you can protect yourself and build stronger, more secure relationships.💓

THIS Happens When YOU PULL AWAY FROM AN AVOIDANT

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Have you ever wondered what really happens when you pull away from a Dismissive Avoidant? It can feel confusing when the person who once shut down suddenly starts to pursue you. This push-pull cycle can be painful, but understanding it is the key to breaking free from games and creating real, lasting connections.
In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Dismissive Avoidants often re-engage when you step back, the subconscious fears driving this pattern, and how you can respond in a way that honors both your needs and theirs. By learning these dynamics, you’ll gain the clarity to set healthy boundaries, stop repeating cycles, and know when it’s time to walk away.
 
You’ll learn:✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants feel safer pursuing when you step back✅ How “feelings minus fears” explains their hot-and-cold cycle✅ The role of childhood conditioning and trauma in these behaviors✅ Why pulling away works temporarily—but isn’t a long-term solution✅ How to find the middle ground between autonomy and intimacy✅ The importance of setting boundaries, deadlines, and direct communication✅ How to know if someone is willing (or not) to do the work in a relationship
 
Episode Breakdown:00:00 – Intro 00:49 – The Four Attachment Styles01:46 – Feelings Minus Fears03:39 – 1. Learn How to Walk the Middle Ground04:34 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo 04:54 – 2. Encourage the Other Person to Work on Themselves06:06 – 3. Set a Deadline07:10 – 4. Communicate Directly About the Situation07:58 – Conclusion
 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 
🎧 Discover MorePodcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 
 
Let’s Connect on Socials:📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 
 
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When you pull away from a Dismissive Avoidant, their fears of closeness quiet down and their true feelings often reemerge. By understanding this cycle, you can stop playing games, communicate directly, and decide whether the relationship has the potential to grow.

10 Signs You Have a Disorganized Attachment Style

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Do you ever feel torn between craving closeness and pushing people away? You’re not alone—this push-pull cycle is one of the biggest signs of a Disorganized Attachment Style (also known as the Fearful Avoidant. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the 10 clearest signs you may actually be disorganized attached—and how understanding them can completely change the way you see yourself and your relationships.
You’ll discover how chaos in childhood wires the nervous system for both fear of abandonment and fear of commitment, and how these patterns play out in love, friendships, and family dynamics. Most importantly, you’ll learn that with the right tools, you can reprogram old wounds and move toward a secure, lasting connection.
 
You’ll learn:
✅ Why the Disorganized Attachment is often misdiagnosed as anxious or dismissive
✅ The “pendulum swing” between fearing abandonment and fearing commitment
✅ How hypervigilance, suspicion, and jumping to conclusions develop
✅ Why boundary struggles, over-giving, and people-pleasing keep you stuck
✅ The role of shame, guilt, and self-criticism in keeping you disconnected
✅ How inconsistent vulnerability shows up as under-sharing or over-sharing
✅ Why unresolved trauma fuels all-or-nothing thinking and emotional chaos
✅ A powerful roadmap for reprogramming subconscious beliefs and needs
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro
01:08 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Flip-Flop Between Fearing Abandonment and Commitment
03:49 – 2. Fearful Avoidants Can Go From Activating to Deactivating
04:23 – Discover, Embrace, & Fulfill Your Personal Needs Course Promo
04:43 – 3. Fearful Avoidants Often Jump to the Worst-Case Conclusions
06:35 – 4. Fearful Avoidants Are Afraid of Feeling Helpless
07:54 – 5. Fearful Avoidants Tend to Be Highly Empathetic or Sympathetic
10:05 – 6. Fearful Avoidants Tend to Struggle With Boundaries
11:03 – 7. Fearful Avoidants Struggle With Regulating Strong Emotions
12:41 – 8. Fearful Avoidants May Undershare or Overshare
13:45 – 9. Fearful Avoidants May Struggle With Extreme Guilt or Shame
14:20 –10. Fearful Avoidants Activate and Deactivate Strongly
14:54 – Conclusion
 
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
 
Let’s Connect on Socials:
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Disorganized (Fearful Avoidant) attachment can leave you stuck in a painful cycle of craving love but fearing it at the same time. By learning the 10 key signs and how to reprogram these patterns, you can move toward secure, healthy, and deeply connected relationships.

BEWARE | The Roommate Trap of Living with a Dismissive Avoidant

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It’s not usually the big fights that end relationships with dismissive avoidants—it’s something far more subtle: the slow fade into the “roommate trap.” In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why love with a dismissive avoidant often erodes into mere coexistence, how neuroscience confirms disengagement is more damaging than conflict, and the exact steps you can take to prevent it.
You’ll learn about the “four pillars of connection,” why avoidants over-rely on intellectual connection, and how unspoken needs and unprocessed conflicts slowly build walls that kill intimacy. Thais also shares a practical 3-step strategy to stop the cycle and reintroduce emotional closeness into the relationship.
You’ll learn:
✅ Why dismissive avoidants rely heavily on intellectual connection, neglecting emotional and romantic pillars
✅ How comfort, routine, and security become their version of “commitment”
✅ Why lack of communication about needs leads to walls and eventual disengagement
✅ What the Gottman Institute reveals about emotional disengagement as the #1 predictor of divorce
✅ How oxytocin and shared vulnerability moments rebuild bonding
✅ A 3-step roadmap: set deadlines, clarify needs, and practice “micro-vulnerability”
Episode Breakdown (Timestamps):00:00 – Intro00:36 – Why Avoidants Prefer Intellectual Connection00:59 – The Pillars of a Relationship02:40 – Why Avoidants Feel Safety in Disconnection04:32 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo05:21 – Communication Struggles of Dismissive Avoidants07:54 – The Neuroscience of Conflict & Vulnerability09:47 – Step 1: Set a Deadline10:34 – Step 2: Clarify Your Needs in a Relationship12:03 – Step 3: Be Upfront About Boundaries13:06 – Conclusion
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
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The “roommate trap” silently kills relationships with avoidants. Learn the hidden reasons it happens—and the steps to reignite intimacy and connection. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode. 💗

When You're Finally Ready for Healthy Relationships This Video Will Find You

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Do you keep ending up in toxic cycles, no matter how much you want healthy love? That’s because you don’t attract the love you deserve—you attract the love your nervous system is wired for.
In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals how nervous system regulation transforms the way you show up in relationships, how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns, and why learning to regulate your nervous system with a simple, science-backed practice can calm your body, reset your mind, and attract healthy love.
You’ll learn:
✅ Why and how Securely Attached people keep their nervous system regulated
✅ Why fight, flight, freeze, and fawn modes sabotage closeness
✅ The neuroscience of regulation and its link to secure love
✅ How ancient wisdom predicted what science now proves
✅ A simple breath + self-soothing exercise you can try today
✅ How to break the cycle of chaos and finally feel safe in love
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:14 – The Nervous Systems of the Attachment Styles
04:38 – How to Heal From a Breakup Course Promo
05:13 – The Neuroscience of Secure Attachment
06:16 – Ancient Wisdoms on Inner Peace
07:52 – Regulate Our Nervous System to Become Securely Attached
08:37 – Connecting Internally With Our Breath
09:15 – The Box Breath
09:53 – Why Being Present in Your Body is Important
11:33 – Conclusion
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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Does A Dismissive Avoidant Look Through Your Phone?

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Few things feel more invasive than wondering if your partner is snooping through your phone. If they’re a Dismissive Avoidant, the thought can leave you feeling confused... aren’t they supposed to avoid closeness, not seek it?
 
In this episode, Thais Gibson unpacks when and why Dismissive Avoidants might snoop, what it really means about their level of investment, and how you can rebuild trust with healthier communication. Most importantly, you’ll learn how neuroscience, psychology, and ancient wisdom all point toward the same truth: trust grows through honesty, boundaries, and self-mastery.
 
You’ll learn:
✅ Why most Dismissive Avoidants avoid snooping—but what it means when they do
✅ The surprising link between snooping and long-term commitment fears
✅ How manipulation often shows up as an indirect attempt to meet needs
✅ Why low oxytocin makes trust harder for Dismissive Avoidants
✅ A practical exercise to uncover the real need behind snooping (and meet it directly)
✅ How to respond if you’ve been snooped on—without losing self-respect
✅ Why healthy boundaries, not control, are the foundation of secure love
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro
01:20 – Dismissive Avoidants Will Often Avoid Snooping
03:49 – What is Happening in Their Internal Reality?
07:50 – How to Heal From a Breakup Course Promo
08:48 – The Neuroscience Behind Snooping
10:09 – Step 1: What Outcomes and Needs Am I Looking for?
10:42 – Step 2: How Can I Better Meet This Need?
11:46 – Ancient Wisdom on Trust and Boundaries
12:54 – Conclusion
 
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Blog
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