The Thais Gibson Podcast

5 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Isn't Ready for A Healthy Relationship

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If you keep feeling confused, disconnected, or emotionally shut out in relationships or you find yourself attracted to people who pull away when things get close, this episode is for you.
Avoidant patterns aren’t about not caring.They’re about a nervous system that learned closeness wasn’t safe.
And that pattern can be healed.
🎥 Episode Summary
In today’s episode, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 major signs a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style may not yet be ready for a healthy relationship, and how to recognize whether real healing is actually taking place.
This episode is especially powerful if you’re:
Dating someone avoidant and unsure how to proceed
Recovering from repeated emotional distancing or shutdown
Or working on your own avoidant patterns and want to know what to heal next
You’ll learn how avoidant strategies like emotional distancing, intellectualized vulnerability, conflict avoidance, and ambiguous commitment are rooted in unhealed core wounds and what must shift internally for secure, lasting connection to be possible.
✨ Key Takeaways
✔ Why “needing space after closeness” is an avoidant strategy, not independence✔ How low-maintenance connection replaces emotional intimacy✔ Why vulnerability gets intellectualized instead of felt✔ The role unresolved core wounds play in nervous system shutdown✔ How conflict avoidance blocks long-term relationship safety✔ Why ambiguous commitment is a sign of emotional unavailability✔ How minimizing your needs creates long-term relational harm
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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How to Process Grief from A Loss of A Pet or Loved One (Personal Share)

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When Grief Feels Overwhelming, You Don’t Have to Go Through It Alone.
Grief can feel heavy, confusing, and isolating especially when you lose a beloved pet or someone who mattered deeply to you. In this deeply personal and compassionate masterclass, Thais Gibson shares her real time experience of grief after losing her dog Simba, while walking you through a grounded, somatic framework to help you process loss in a healthy, supportive way.
Episode SummaryThis episode isn’t about “getting over” grief; it’s about learning how to be with it, understanding what’s really happening in your mind and body, and gently moving through the healing process with self-attunement, compassion, and clarity.
In this video, Thais explores what grief truly is not just the loss of physical presence, but the loss of the needs, identities, and parts of ourselves that were expressed in relationship to those we loved. Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, and somatic processing, she introduces five powerful pillars to help you move through grief without suppressing emotions or getting stuck in painful stories.
Whether you’re grieving a pet, a loved one, or another meaningful loss, this episode offers tools you can return to again and again especially during moments when grief resurfaces unexpectedly.
Key Takeaways• Why grief is love with nowhere to go and how to give it a new place• How to practice self-attunement when emotions feel intense or overwhelming• The role attachment wounds and subconscious stories play in prolonging grief• How to identify the needs your relationship met and meet them in new ways• Why grief isn’t just about who you lost, but who you got to be with them• How to stay connected to memories in a healthy, grounding way without getting stuck in the past
Timestamps00:00 – Processing Grief00:57 – Losing a Pet04:27 – The Backstory: Simba10:37 – Grief Is the Void Left by Non-Physical Loss12:39 – Grief as the Mind & Body’s Response to Loss14:22 – 1. Practice Self-Attunement21:29 – 2. Examine the Stories You Tell Yourself28:04 – Could There Be Another Truth?30:22 – Somatic Course Promo30:42 – We Attach to the Needs They Met36:46 – 3. Identify Needs & Meet Them in New Ways37:53 – 4. Express the Most Sacred Parts of Yourself44:23 – 5A. Healthy Connection Without Living in the Past47:23 – 5B. Healthy, Sustained Connection50:02 – Summary
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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5 Hard Truths ABOUT The Dismissive Avoidant

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If you have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, healing doesn’t mean forcing yourself to become someone you’re not — it means learning a new, healthier relationship with vulnerability, emotions, and connection.
In this episode, Thais Gibson shares 5 hard but deeply transformative truths that can support dismissive avoidant healing, reduce emotional shutdown, and help you build relationships that feel safe, balanced, and sustainable.
These truths may feel uncomfortable at first, but once integrated, they can fundamentally change how you experience intimacy, self-worth, and connection.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why emotions are not something to avoid, but powerful feedback toolsHow vulnerability creates safety, not weaknessWhy receiving support is a key part of healthy interdependenceHow compromise strengthens connection without self-abandonmentWhy being imperfect does not mean you are defective
⏱️ Timestamps:
00:00 – These Truths Can Transform Your Life00:35 – 1. Your Feelings Are Your Friends02:03 – 2. Vulnerability Is Healthy and Necessary03:10 – 3. Leaning on Someone and Receiving Support From Them Is Not Weak04:34 – Ending Codependency Course Promo04:55 – 4. It Is Important to Make Concessions in the Form of Compromises05:37 – 5. It Is Normal and Human to Have Flaws
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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3 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Is Pulling Away & About to Leave

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If you feel like your Dismissive Avoidant partner is slowly disappearing — saying less, reaching out less, and emotionally checking out, you’re not imagining it.
Most Dismissive Avoidants don’t leave with a dramatic breakup.They detach quietly first.
In this episode, you’ll learn the 3 clearest signs a Dismissive Avoidant is pulling away and preparing to leave, the real fear driving this behavior, and how a securely attached person responds in ways that protect their nervous system, boundaries, and self-worth.
This isn’t about chasing, over-functioning, or blaming yourself.It’s about clarity, emotional safety, and responding from security, not panic.
🧠 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why Dismissive Avoidants often detach before they leaveHow reduced bids for connection signal emotional exitWhy focusing on “flaws” helps avoidants justify distancingThe neuroscience behind avoidant deactivationWhat a secure response sees early and acts on calmlyHow exit narratives form long before a breakup happens
⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 – 3 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Is Pulling Away & About to Leave00:58 – 1. They Stop Making Bids for Connection03:36 – 2. They Vocalize Flaws in the Relationship05:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidant Detachment06:05 – Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Promo06:25 – 3. They Begin to Build an Exit Narrative
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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Top 10 Signs You Have A Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style

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If you resonate with intense emotional highs and lows in relationships, fear both abandonment and commitment, or feel overwhelmed by closeness yet terrified of distance, you may have a Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style.
This episode breaks down the signs, clearly, compassionately, and at the subconscious level, so you can finally understand what’s happening inside you and how to heal it.
 
Episode Summary
Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the most emotionally complex attachment styles, often shaped by early experiences of inconsistency, chaos, or unpredictability in relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through the top 10 signs of fearful avoidant attachment, explaining why these patterns form and how they show up in adult relationships.
You’ll learn why fearful avoidants flip-flop between closeness and distance, struggle with emotional regulation and boundaries, jump to worst-case conclusions, and experience deep guilt, shame, and empathy—all while longing for safety and connection. Most importantly, you’ll discover how somatic healing and nervous-system regulation can help you feel secure, grounded, and emotionally safe again.
 
Key Takeaways
Why fearful avoidants fear abandonment and commitment
How activation–deactivation cycles form in relationships
Why you may push people away even when you want closeness
The link between empathy, boundary struggles, and emotional overwhelm
Why vulnerability can feel unsafe—even when you’re sharing
How guilt, shame, and emotional dysregulation develop
Why somatic healing is essential for lasting attachment repair
 
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro00:01:47 – Sign #1: Flip-Flopping Between Fear of Abandonment and Commitment00:04:38 – Sign #2: Actively Pushing Away00:05:19 – Sign #3: Jump to Worst-Case Conclusions00:07:24 – Sign #4: Terrified of Feeling Helpless00:08:49 – Sign #5: Tend to Be Highly Empathetic00:11:12 – Sign #6: Struggle with Boundaries00:12:21 – Sign #7: Difficulty Regulating Emotion00:13:35 – 7-Day Free Trial + Somatic Course00:15:01 – Sign #8: May Seem Vulnerable without Actually Sharing00:17:10 – Sign #9: Frequently Experience Guilt and Shame00:17:50 – Sign #10: Strong Activation-Deactivation
 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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My Daughter Won’t Talk to Me | A Dad’s Guide to Reconnecting

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If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You…
It’s easy to believe that silence means rejection, but in most cases, it means hurt, confusion, and protective walls, not a lack of love.
Drawing from her personal story and over a decade of clinical experience, Thais explains why children disconnect, what not to do when trying to reconnect, and how small, consistent actions can begin rebuilding emotional safety.
What You’ll Learn in This Video:Why silence doesn’t mean your relationship is doomedHow learned helplessness keeps reconnection stuckThe hidden danger of over explaining your sideHow to reconnect through your child’s emotional needsWhy processing your own hurt is essentialHow accountability rebuilds trust over time
TIMESTAMPS00:00 – If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You01:01 – Your Relationship Isn’t Doomed Forever01:42 – Thais’ Story10:06 – 1. You Have to Get Out of Learned Helplessness13:10 – 2. Explaining Your Point of View Can Take the Focus Away From Your Child16:51 – Somatic Course Promo17:11 – 3. Learn to Connect to Your Child’s Needs19:26 – 4. Process Your Own Hurt Around the Situation24:39 – 5. Honor and Be Accountable for Your Past Mistakes
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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THIS Happens When The Avoidant Realizes They Lost You

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If you’re caught in cycles of emotional pain, overthinking, or fear of getting close again, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to start healing at the root.
 
Episode Summary
Breakups don’t just hurt emotionally; they can activate deep attachment wounds that keep us stuck in fear, rumination, and self-doubt. In this episode, we explore why commitment can feel so threatening after heartbreak, how the subconscious mind enters “flaw-finding mode,” and why the boomerang effect can pull us back into unhealthy dynamics.
You’ll learn how to separate genuine feelings from fear-based reactions, why holding no contact is so powerful for healing, and how to begin rewriting old emotional stories so you can create secure, healthy relationships moving forward.
 
Key Takeaways
Why fear of commitment often intensifies after a breakup
How to distinguish real feelings from subconscious fear responses
What “flaw-finding mode” is and how it sabotages the connection
The boomerang effect and why it keeps pulling you back
Why holding no contact supports nervous system regulation
How routines help rewire old attachment patterns
Practical steps to heal emotionally and move forward with clarity
 
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro00:01:31 – A Fear of Commitment00:02:40 – Feelings Minus Fears00:04:31 – Flaw Finding Mode00:05:56 – Boomerang Effect00:08:50 – IAT Promo00:09:43 – Hold No Contact00:10:44 – Rewrite Our Old Stories00:11:46 – Find a Routine00:12:30 – Conclusion / How to Heal From a Breakup
 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
 
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Why Dismissive Avoidants Want to Act Like They're In A Relationship Without Actually Committing

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If you’re dealing with someone who acts emotionally involved but pulls away when commitment comes up, or if you resonate with the dismissive avoidant attachment style, this episode will bring clarity, relief, and a clear path forward.
 
Episode Summary
Dismissive Avoidants often desire connection, but without the vulnerability and commitment that deeper relationships require. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the core subconscious reasons behind this pattern, including unmet emotional modeling in childhood, fear of vulnerability, difficulty resolving conflict, and feeling misunderstood or criticized in relationships.
You’ll learn how these attachment wounds form, why they lead to commitment resistance, and how healing your attachment style can help you build emotionally secure, fulfilling relationships, without losing your sense of independence.
 
Key Takeaways
What defines the dismissive avoidant attachment style
How unmodeled emotional connection impacts adult relationships
Why vulnerability can feel unsafe or threatening
How unresolved conflict fuels fear of commitment
Why dismissive avoidants often feel misunderstood or criticized
How attachment-style healing creates safety, clarity, and deeper intimacy
 
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro00:00:27 – The Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style00:01:05 – Reason #1: Unmodeled Pillars Of Emotional Connection00:04:26 – Reason #2: Struggle With Vulnerability00:06:41 – 7-Day Free Trial: Dismissive Avoidant In The 6 Stages Of A Relationship00:07:02 – Reason #3: Unable To Resolve Conflict00:10:15 – Reason #4: Feeling Misunderstood And Criticized00:12:32 – Summary
 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
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Fearful Avoidant | Recover Long Lost Self Connection

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If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, you may feel emotionally numb, unsure of your needs, or like you’ve lost touch with who you truly are. This disconnection often develops as a survival response but it can be healed.
In this episode, Thais Gibson walks you through how to recover long-lost self-connection and rebuild a secure relationship with yourself, so you can stop living on autopilot and start making aligned, grounded decisions in your life and relationships.
Episode SummaryThis episode explores why Fearful Avoidant individuals often struggle with self-connection and how early environments, chronic stress, people-pleasing, and emotional suppression can lead to disconnection from needs, boundaries, and identity.
You’ll learn the three core pillars of self-connection and how each one plays a vital role in healing attachment wounds:
Learning who you truly areReconnecting with your body and emotional signalsDeveloping a strong identity without rigid attachmentThese tools help you feel safer within yourself, reduce emotional numbing, and create clarity in relationships, career choices, and personal direction.
Key TakeawaysWhy living on autopilot and chronic people-pleasing weaken self-connectionHow emotional numbing and escapism block clarity around needs and boundariesIntrospection: learning your needs, values, boundaries, and what lights you upEmbodiment: using body awareness to access emotions and regulate the nervous systemIdentity: building a strong sense of self without becoming rigid or over-attachedHow reconnecting with yourself supports long-term healing for fearful avoidant attachment
Timestamps00:00 – Recovering Lost Self Connection00:54 – What Does Struggling With Self Connection Look Like?03:28 – 1. Introspection05:04 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo05:41 – 2. Embodiment07:47 – 3. Identity09:51 – Conclusion
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
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A Personal Health Share That Might Help You

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In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode, Thais Gibson shares her long and complex physical health journey from chronic illness in childhood to discovering root causes as an adult through functional and integrative approaches.
This conversation is not about giving medical advice. It’s about sharing lived experience, connecting the dots between nervous system regulation, emotional healing, and physical well-being, and helping others feel less alone if they’ve been struggling with unexplained or chronic symptoms.
Thais opens up about her childhood health challenges, early adulthood, and the physical symptoms that persisted even after deep emotional and psychological healing. She shares what led her to explore functional medicine, advanced testing, and lifestyle changes and how understanding her body transformed her quality of life.
This episode explores:Growing up with chronic illness and allergiesHow early life experiences shaped resilience and self-awarenessThe role of functional medicine and root-cause testingDiscoveries around mold exposure, inflammation, and nervous system healthWhat ultimately supported her healing journeyThis is a story about listening to your body, advocating for yourself, and integrating mind–body healing.
 
Key TakeawaysChronic symptoms can become “normal” when they start early in lifeEmotional healing and physical healing often need to happen togetherFunctional and root-cause approaches helped uncover missing piecesRegulation, awareness, and self-support play a role in overall well-beingYou’re not broken, sometimes your body is asking to be understood
 
Timestamps00:00 – Intro00:55 – Thais’ Physical Health Journey03:46 – Thais’ Childhood and Youth09:00 – Thais’ Early Adult Life17:22 – Getting Into Functional Medicine21:15 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo21:51 – Mycotoxin and Organic Acids Test Results31:39 – Mast Cell Activation Syndrome34:41 – What Helped Thais Heal43:38 – Final Takeaways
 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
 
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
 
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
 
🎧 Discover Podcast Episodeshttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1
 
📝 Read the PDS Bloghttps://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
 
Let’s Connect on Socials:📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/