The Thais Gibson Podcast

An Avoidant Needs THIS To Resolve Conflict and Reconnect Immediately!

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-26-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, we explore the unique needs of dismissive avoidants during and after conflict, revealing key strategies to foster reconnection and harmony.Discover how to transform conflicts from divisive moments into opportunities for deeper understanding and closeness, using tools like direct communication, positive reinforcement, and acts of service.Learn the art of "re-bonding" to restore trust and safety after disputes, and uncover why harmonious communication is essential for avoidants to open up.Whether you’re navigating these dynamics yourself or in a relationship with an avoidant, this episode offers practical advice to create stronger, more secure connections.Timestamps:00:00:00 – Why Avoidants Shut Down During Conflict00:00:18 – Key Needs of Avoidants After a Conflict00:01:12 – The Role of Harmonious Communication00:02:45 – Positive vs. Negative Conflict Dynamics00:05:08 – Direct and Literal Communication Needs00:06:00 – Rebonding: Acknowledgment and Appreciation00:07:30 – Using Positive Reinforcement in Relationships00:08:50 – Building Connection Through Lighthearted Activities00:10:22 – Acts of Service as a Sign of Peace00:11:45 – Validation and Encouraging Effort00:13:50 – Healthy Communication Tools for Conflict Resolution00:15:00 – Final Thoughts: Creating Deeper ConnectionsLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE Are the Top Avoidant Triggers That Make Them Run Away

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-23-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike DiZio explore the inner world of dismissive avoidants, uncovering the core wounds and triggers that cause them to retreat in relationships. From the need for personal space and independence to fears of vulnerability and conflict, the duo breaks down common challenges dismissive avoidants face and provides actionable advice for fostering healthier connections.Through personal experiences and professional insights, this episode sheds light on how dismissive avoidants perceive intimacy, handle communication, and navigate criticism. Whether you’re a dismissive avoidant yourself or looking to better understand a loved one, this episode offers invaluable tools for empathy, understanding, and building secure, lasting relationships.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro02:17 - Things That Cause Dismissive Avoidants to Run04:33 - When Your Need For Space Was Disrespected13:29 - Excessive Need for Communication / Clinginess16:57 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass32:49 - Setting Boundaries and Self-Regulation22:08 - Assumptions on How They're Feeling30:00 - Feeling Controlled By a Partner41:15 - Too Much Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Closeness51:37 - Conflict and Criticism1:03:54 - ConclusionGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE 4 Triggers Cause Fearful Avoidants to Run from Relationships

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5 Things That Cause A Fearful Avoidant to Suddenly LEAVE A Relationship

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-16-24&el=podcastAre you struggling to understand why a fearful avoidant partner may suddenly leave? Discover the key triggers and learn how to communicate effectively to build a stronger, lasting bond.In today’s video, Thais Gibson dives into the complexities of the fearful avoidant attachment style and explores the five triggers that cause them to leave relationships abruptly. She explains the internal struggles these individuals face, such as miscommunication, fear of abandonment, and difficulty setting boundaries, while offering actionable strategies for healing. Watch now to gain invaluable insights into the mind of a fearful avoidant and learn how to foster healthier, more secure relationships.Timestamps00:00 - Intro02:18 - 1. Abandonment: activating and deactivating15:43 - Hurting and Offending Others18:09 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass19:00 - 2. Being criticized23:25 - Making Amends29:32 - 3. Feeling Incapable, Dumb, or Foolish32:49 - You Must Communicate Your Needs to Receive Them42:34 - 4. If They Feel Like They’re Being Attacked47:15 - 5. Being Taken Advantage of57:28 - ConclusionThis episode is packed with tools to empower you in rebuilding your sense of self and creating a healthier approach to love and connection. Don’t miss the free trial mentioned in the episode for additional resources to support your healing journey!Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast--- Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Relationship History of the Dismissive Avoidant...

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=youtubeIt’s time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=podcastHave you ever wondered why dismissive avoidants often struggle with long-term commitment? Learn about their relationship history, common challenges, and how to foster deeper, more meaningful connections.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson delves into the relationship history of the dismissive avoidant attachment style, highlighting patterns shaped by childhood experiences and emotional neglect. Learn why dismissive avoidants struggle with vulnerability and long-term commitment and discover actionable steps to bridge these gaps for healthier connections. Listen now to uncover insights into attachment theory, emotional healing, and building fulfilling relationships.Timestamps00:00:00 – Exploring Relationship Patterns00:01:10 – How Childhood Shapes Relationship Expectations00:02:03 – Emotional Neglect and Repression of Feelings00:03:37 – Understanding Emotions as Feedback00:05:10 – Impact of Independence vs. Interdependence00:07:17 – Misconceptions About Compromise in Relationships00:09:03 – Patterns of Short-Term Relationships00:10:27 – The Six Stages of Relationship Development00:12:15 – The 6-Month and 2-Year Breakup Patterns00:14:30 – Importance of Vulnerability and Communication00:16:30 – Vetting Partners and Personal GrowthLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE 5 Things Cause Fearful Avoidants to RUN

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-07-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and cohost, Mike DiZio, dive deep into the world of fearful avoidant attachment styles. Together, they explore the triggers that often arise in relationships for those with this attachment style, such as trust violations, unmet expectations, and feelings of emotional overwhelm. Thais, a former fearful avoidant turned secure, shares invaluable insights from her personal journey and professional expertise.Listeners will gain a better understanding of:
The internal world of a fearful avoidant.
Why small incongruities can feel like major trust breaches.
How childhood experiences shape hypervigilance and relational patterns.
Practical strategies to foster trust and communication in relationships.
Whether you're navigating these challenges yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable tips to create healthier, more secure connections.Tune in for a candid conversation filled with relatable stories, expert advice, and the tools to transform attachment patterns.Timestamps00:00 - Intro01:58 - FA Triggers: When Trust is Broken03:57 - Developing Hypervigilance as a Coping Mechanism11:20 - Sharing Phone Access with Your Partner22:00 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass24:28 - FA Triggers: People Having Expectations for Them28:41 - Finding Comfort in Chaos34:52 - Feeling Seen and Less Alone39:44 - FAs and Rights of Passage Fears43:26 - Reassuring the FA When They're Feeling Afraid47:26 - FA Triggers: Feeling Unimportant or Like They Don't Matter52:35 - Conclusion Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do THIS If You’re Anxiously Attached & Want to Get Over Someone FAST

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THIS Is Why You Feel Needy In Relationships and How to Stop IMMEDIATELY!

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-05-24&el=podcastDo you find yourself seeking constant reassurance in relationships? Discover how to break free from the cycle of neediness and cultivate emotional independence in today’s transformative video.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson explores the underlying reasons for neediness in relationships and how to overcome it with practical strategies. Learn the difference between codependency, hyper-independence, and interdependence while discovering actionable steps to build emotional security. Listen now to master effective communication, meet your own needs, and create healthier, lasting relationships.Timestamps00:00:00 – Why Do You Feel Needy in Relationships?00:00:09 – The Cycle of Needing Constant Reassurance00:00:35 – Understanding Root Causes of Neediness00:01:05 – How Fear of Abandonment Shapes Relationships00:03:00 – Secure People vs. Anxious Attachment Styles00:04:40 – The Empty Gas Tank Analogy00:07:00 – Interdependence: The Balance Between Needs and Self-Sufficiency00:10:15 – Meeting Your Own Needs vs. Codependency00:13:30 – The Importance of Clear Communication00:15:25 – How Subconscious Conditioning Affects Relationships00:18:10 – Positive Framing in Communication00:21:05 – Summary and Next Steps for Emotional IndependenceLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is Why Avoidants Prefer Casual Relationships Over Committed Ones!

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THIS Is How A Fearful Avoidant Feels After A Break Up!

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-01-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio explore the inner world of the fearful avoidant attachment style during and after a breakup. Whether you're a fearful avoidant or someone trying to understand a partner with this attachment style, this episode sheds light on the complexities of their behavior and provides actionable strategies for healing and rebuilding trust in relationships.Timestamps00:00 - Intro02:13 - How Fearful Avoidants Process a Break Up08:02 - Reconnecting with an Ex10:40 - Expressing Needs and Vulnerability14:58 - Relief After a Break Up19:33 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass20:23 - After Breaking Up with an FA23:17 - On-Again, Off-Again Relationships28:02 - Love Languages and Expressing Needs37:36 - Mike and Thais’ Shares on Love Language Needs37:36 - Translate Expectations to Needs47:01 - When to Reconnect with an FA Ex51:00 - How Long Does the Reconnection Last?52:43 - How They Seem VS How They Feel54:53 - ConclusionLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices