The Thais Gibson Podcast

5 Strange Things Every Avoidant Needs to Be Happy in Love

Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-27-25&el=podcastIn this episode, we explore "5 Strange Things Every Avoidant Needs to Be Happy in Love."Discover the surprising and essential needs of individuals with avoidant attachment styles and how understanding these can create a healthier, more connected relationship.From the importance of independence and empathy to harmony, literal communication, and non-judgment, we break down how these elements help avoidants thrive in love.Whether you’re navigating your own attachment style or seeking to understand your partner better, this episode provides practical tips and tools for creating a balanced and fulfilling connection. Tune in now for actionable insights to transform your relationship!Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcastSpecial thanks to our sponsors:
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5 Signs Someone IS SECURELY ATTACHED

Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=NayWzcw4EUg&utm_content=mg-01-24-25&el=podcastAre you wondering how to spot a securely attached partner or friend? Discover the five essential traits of secure attachment and how they lead to more balanced, fulfilling relationships.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson reveals the five key signs of securely attached individuals and how these traits foster healthy, fulfilling relationships. From open communication to constructive conflict resolution and maintaining a balanced life, this episode breaks down what makes secure attachment so empowering. Listen now to discover the traits that create lasting connections and learn how to bring them into your relationships.00:00:00 – Introduction: Identifying Secure Attachment00:00:37 – Sign #1: Open Communication00:01:50 – Sign #2: Sharing Vulnerably00:02:15 – Comfort with Emotional Transparency00:03:02 – Sign #3: Handling Conflict Constructively00:04:15 – Sign #4: Practicing Interdependence00:05:13 – Sign #5: Setting and Respecting Boundaries00:05:53 – Balance in Life Through Healthy Boundaries00:06:00 – Conclusion: Fostering Secure RelationshipsLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcastSpecial thanks to our sponsors:
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7 Things ONLY Fearful Avoidants Will Understand

Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-22-25&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we explore the unique behaviors of individuals with a fearful avoidant attachment style.From hypervigilance to a high need for control, we discuss the root causes of these patterns, how they impact relationships, and actionable insights for creating healthier dynamics.Co-hosts dive into personal experiences, share relatable anecdotes, and offer tips for both fearful avoidants and their partners. Whether you’re navigating your own attachment style or supporting a loved one, this episode provides a compassionate and educational lens on these quirks.Episode Timestamps:00:00 - Intro02:40 - Hypervigilance17:20 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass18:11 - A High Need for Control25:46 - They’re Easy to Trigger29:53 - "If You Love Me, You Should Know What I Need”37:34 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification38:41 - Asking a Lot of Questions42:26 - They Won't Ask for Help47:16 - They Can Be Extreme52:45 - They Can Be Very Competitive54:56 - They Often Personalize Things1:00:58 - ConclusionTune in for valuable insights, self-discovery tips, and practical advice to enhance your relationships and personal growth journey.Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcastSpecial thanks to our sponsors:
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The REAL Reason the Avoidant Gives the Silent Treatment

Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-20-25&el=podcastDo you feel frustrated by the silent treatment in your relationship? Discover the hidden reasons behind avoidant behavior and learn how to handle it with clarity and compassion.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson uncovers the real reasons behind the silent treatment used by avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Explore how emotional triggers, fear of vulnerability, and subconscious coping mechanisms contribute to this behavior. Listen now to learn practical tools for navigating these dynamics and fostering healthier communication.Timestamps00:00:00 – Introduction: Understanding the Silent Treatment00:00:16 – What Is the Silent Treatment?00:01:00 – Why Avoidants Use the Silent Treatment00:01:30 – Emotional Triggers Behind Stonewalling00:02:45 – Avoidant Coping Mechanisms Explained00:03:40 – Healthy vs. Unhealthy Silent Treatment00:04:20 – Manipulation vs. Emotional Self-Regulation00:05:10 – How to Differentiate Intentions Behind Silence00:05:50 – The Role of Emotional Literacy in Avoidants00:06:30 – Tips for Dealing With the Silent Treatment00:07:00 – Free Resources for Resolving ConflictLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcastSpecial thanks to our sponsors:
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7 Shocking Dismissive Avoidant Relationship Quirks

Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_id=VIDEOID&utm_content=mg-01-15-25&el=podcastIn this episode, we dive into the unique quirks and challenges of dismissive avoidant attachment styles in relationships, from their unexpected affection for pets over partners to struggles with planning and eye contact. Join our hosts, Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio, as they share personal experiences and expert insights into how these behaviors stem from childhood patterns and how they affect relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners.We’ll explore actionable strategies for navigating these dynamics, including how to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and foster secure attachment. Whether you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant partner or simply curious about attachment theory, this episode offers valuable tips and a deeper understanding of these behaviors.Tune in for relatable anecdotes, enlightening discussions, and practical advice on building healthier, more connected relationships.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro03:58 - They’re More Affectionate with Animals09:11 - They Might Seem Selfish14:30 - They Can Be Frugal24:53 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass25:44 - They Don't Like Making Social Plans Ahead of Time39:18 - They Don't Make a Lot of Eye Contact42:07 - They Can Seem Aloof or Apathetic47:03 - They Don't Ask You to Meet Their Needs54:05 - They May Not Be Present in Conversations1:36:09 - ConclusionDon’t miss this insightful and engaging conversation!Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When To Leave An Avoidant...

Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-13-25&el=podcastAre you questioning whether to continue investing in a relationship with an avoidant partner? Learn the three essential steps to evaluate your situation and make the best decision for your happiness and growth.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson outlines a step-by-step approach to help you decide whether to stay with or leave an avoidant partner. By setting clear boundaries, focusing on personal growth, and assessing the other person’s willingness to grow, you’ll gain clarity and confidence in your decision. Listen now to discover actionable tools for navigating challenging dynamics and fostering healthier relationships.Timestamps00:00:00 – Should You Stay or Leave?00:00:47 – Signs of Losing Yourself in the Relationship00:01:12 – The Three-Step Process for Decision-Making00:02:45 – Key Question: Are They Willing to Do the Work?00:05:08 – Setting Deadlines for Relationship Investment00:07:30 – The Importance of Personal Growth During Evaluation00:09:20 – Recognizing When the Needle Isn’t Moving00:11:45 – Clarity and Confidence in Your Decision00:13:50 – Evaluating Healthy Relationship Reciprocity00:15:00 – Tools to Heal and Rebuild Self-Worth00:17:45 – Final Thoughts: Leading by ExampleFollow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels!YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/---#AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipDynamics #SecureAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Easily Spot A Secure Partner

Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses on relationship with avoidants, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-01-10-25&el=podcastAre you struggling to identify healthy relationship dynamics? Discover the five key traits of a securely attached partner and learn how to spot and nurture these qualities in your relationships.In today’s episode, Thais Gibson shares how to recognize the key traits of a securely attached partner, including emotional regulation, vulnerability, and the balance between independence and intimacy. Learn practical tools for identifying secure communication styles and fostering interdependence in your relationships. Listen now to discover actionable steps for spotting secure partners and becoming one yourself.Timestamps00:00:00 – Introduction: Struggling to Find the Right Partner?00:00:47 – Why Insecure Attachment Styles Are Common00:01:12 – Positive Framing in Communication00:02:45 – Working Through Challenges and Vulnerability00:03:50 – The Power of Empathy and Emotional Validation00:05:15 – Setting Boundaries While Validating Emotions00:06:45 – Balancing Independence and Intimacy: Interdependence00:08:14 – Avoiding Codependency and Counterdependency00:10:22 – Self-Soothing vs. Co-Regulating with a Partner00:12:07 – The Role of Needs in Conflict Resolution00:14:00 – Final Thoughts: Becoming and Recognizing a Secure PartnerFollow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels!YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/---#AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #RelationshipDynamics #SecureAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

FEARFUL AVOIDANT: 11 Signs Your Attachment Trauma is Rooted in PARENTIFICATION

Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses on relationship with avoidants, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-09-25&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, Thais Gibson explores the profound effects of parentification on attachment styles and adult relationships. Learn how being forced into a caregiver role as a child impacts your ability to set boundaries, trust others, and receive love as an adult. Listen now to discover practical tools for healing these patterns and reclaiming emotional freedom in your relationships.Do you feel burdened by always being the caregiver in your relationships? Discover how parentification affects your emotional health and learn to break free from these patterns to create balanced, fulfilling connections.Timestamps:00:00:00 - Introduction to parentification and its impacts00:01:30 - The two types of parentification: emotional and instrumental00:04:50 - How parentification shapes adult attachment styles00:08:10 - Signs of parentification in childhood00:11:45 - Why parentification leads to over-giving and burnout00:15:30 - Emotional patterns formed from unmet childhood needs00:20:20 - The struggle to trust and accept love as an adult00:24:00 - Common symptoms of being a parentified child00:28:15 - Key steps to reprogram beliefs rooted in parentification00:33:40 - Building balance between care for self and others00:38:20 - Practical tools to heal and thrive in relationships00:44:00 - Final insights and next steps for healingGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fearful Avoidants Need THESE 3 Things to Connect After Conflict

Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-02-25&el=podcastStruggling to reconnect with a fearful avoidant partner after a fight? Learn the three game-changing steps to rebuild trust, resolve conflict, and bring you closer than ever before.In this episode, Thais Gibson outlines the three essential steps fearful avoidants need to reconnect after conflict. Discover why validating feelings, offering transparency, and creating preventative strategies are key to rebuilding trust and deepening your bond. Watch now to learn how to transform conflict into a powerful opportunity for connection and lasting harmony.00:00:00 - Introduction: 3 Steps Fearful Avoidants Need After Conflict00:00:25 - Step 1: Why Validating Feelings is Critical00:01:08 - How Validation Helps Fearful Avoidants Let Their Guard Down00:02:00 - The Difference Between Validating Feelings vs. Behaviors00:02:21 - Step 2: The Importance of Transparency and Context00:03:42 - Why Understanding ‘Why’ Behind Behavior Builds Trust00:04:00 - How Fearful Avoidants Use Hyper-Vigilance to Feel Safe00:05:01 - Step 3: Strategies to Prevent Recurring Issues00:05:50 - Why Preventative Strategies Create Reassurance00:06:32 - Taking Action to Improve the Relationship00:07:03 - How Conflict Can Bring You Closer, Not Drive You Apart00:07:20 - Final Tips for Building Trust and ConnectionLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE Are the Top Triggers for An Anxious Partner (& How to Solve Them)

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-30-24&el=podcastIn this episode, co-hosts Mike and Thais Gibson dive deep into the world of relationship triggers, focusing on how they manifest for those with an anxious attachment style. Drawing from personal experiences as former fearful and dismissive avoidants, they share actionable insights on understanding and managing triggers like feeling excluded, hot-and-cold behavior, and unmet needs for soothing.Learn how core wounds shape our reactions, the importance of communication in fostering secure relationships, and why understanding your partner’s attachment style is key to creating a supportive connection. Whether you’re navigating these dynamics yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers practical advice for growth and healing. Plus, stay tuned for resources on rewiring attachment patterns to foster healthier connections.Timestamps;00:00 - Intro01:46 - Forgetting Important Events07:42 - Projecting Love Languages10:10 - When a Partner Has an Active Social Life Apart From Them18:24 - Hot and Cold Behavior26:55 - Communicating with Openness and Vulnerability33:03 - Not Being Soothed By Your Partner When You Need Them38:04 - If Someone Asks for Too Much47:37 - ConclusionJoin us for an engaging conversation filled with relatable stories, expert insights, and tools to help you thrive in your relationshipsGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices