The Thais Gibson Podcast

Shocking Surprises Living with a Dismissive Avoidant

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Moving in with a dismissive avoidant partner can be both exciting and surprisingly challenging. In this powerful episode, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike reveal the five biggest (and most unexpected) things that happen when you start sharing a home with someone who struggles with emotional closeness.
From the retreat for space that often follows big steps forward, to fears of losing autonomy or conflict avoidance, this conversation dives deep into how dismissive avoidants process intimacy—and how you can build understanding, connection, and balance instead of frustration.
Through personal stories and professional insight, Thais and Mike share practical strategies for communication, conflict resolution, and emotional safety—so you can navigate cohabitation with compassion and clarity.
You’ll Learn:
The #1 reason dismissive avoidants retreat into their own space after moving in
How to discuss space, boundaries, and routines before issues arise
Why dismissive avoidants equate comfort with love (and how that affects dating effort)
How to avoid the “roommate trap” and keep the spark alive
The importance of acceptance and autonomy for both partners
Why DAs often struggle with conflict, change, and vulnerability
How to communicate needs without triggering shame or withdrawal
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro & Why Moving In Can Trigger the Power Struggle Stage03:16 – 1 — DAs Retreat to Their Own Space to Create Emotional Distance07:16 – How to Navigate Space & Routine Discussions09:16 – The Role of Acceptance & Allowing Autonomy13:30 – 2 — How Cleanliness, Habits, & Personality Types Impact Living Together17:10 – Creating Shared Routines and Avoiding Misunderstandings21:31 – PDS 7-Day Free Trial & Membership Overview22:36 – 3 — DAs Equate Comfort With Love (and Why It Leads to Complacency)25:41 – Why You Should Always “Date” Your Partner31:11 – 4 — Why DAs Feel Trapped or Pull Back Emotionally35:28 – Communication Scripts for “Recharge Time” & Emotional Safety43:29 – 5 — When Conflict Arises: How to Handle It Without Triggering Shutdown47:18 – The Long-Term Benefits of Secure Co-Living51:10 – Bonus: Acts of Service, Self-Consideration & Learning True Partnership56:14 – Rumi’s Quote on Growth & Healing in Relationships59:09 – Final Reflections and Listener Tips
Key Takeaway:
When you understand a dismissive avoidant’s wiring—fears of loss, shame, and autonomy—you can transform potential friction into deeper connection. Secure relationships aren’t about avoiding conflict—they’re about communicating through it.
🎙️ Meet Your HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory™. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience helping 70,000+ students, she specializes in attachment healing, subconscious reprogramming, and secure relationship building.
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What A Dismissive Avoidant Feels When They Start Dating An Anxious Attachment Style

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When a Dismissive Avoidant starts dating an Anxiously Attached individual, the attraction is instant, but so are the triggers. What begins as magnetic chemistry often becomes a cycle of closeness and withdrawal, as both partners try to meet old needs in new ways that feel both familiar and painful.
In this video, Thais Gibson explores the hidden dynamics between Dismissive Avoidant and Anxious attachment styles during the dating stage, revealing what draws them together, what drives their early challenges, and how they can navigate the push-pull cycle with awareness and communication.
You’ll learn:✅ Why Dismissive and Anxious types feel such strong initial chemistry✅ What early needs and wounds this pairing unconsciously fulfills✅ How their opposite traits — independence vs. connection — create both attraction and conflict✅ The most common breakdown points in the dating stage✅ How to recognize and stop the “trigger cycle” that keeps them repeating painful patterns
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – When a Dismissive Avoidant Dates An Anxious Attachment Style01:14 – Exclusive Series for the Entire Month02:06 – 1. They Are Attracted to Each Other Early On via Trait Variety 04:20 – Black Friday: 14-Day Trial Promo04:40 – The Mystery of the Dismissive Avoidants06:43 – 2. The Dismissive Avoidant’s Unmet Needs From Childhood Are Met When Dating 07:32 – 3. Anxious Preoccupied Individuals Struggle to Move Slowly in Relationships09:33 – How They Trigger Each Other 12:51 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Anxious Preoccupied Individuals 15:36 – The AP (Anxious Preoccupied)/DA (Dismissive Avoidant) Trigger Cycle  17:20 – Coming This Month: How to Navigate Relationships
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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The Avoidant Does THIS When You Stop Talking to Them

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When a Dismissive Avoidant stops talking, it’s usually a defense mechanism. But what happens when you go silent instead? The reaction might surprise you. While they seem calm or detached, there’s an entire emotional process unfolding beneath the surface.
In this video, Thais Gibson explains what really happens when you stop talking to a Dismissive Avoidant, the five key emotional stages they move through, and what their silence actually means. You’ll learn how space impacts their nervous system, why they sometimes come back indirectly, and how to decide whether reconnection is truly healthy.
You’ll learn:✅ The 5 emotional stages Dismissive Avoidants experience when you pull away✅ Why initial relief is often followed by confusion and regret✅ How independence becomes a form of emotional control✅ The subconscious fear that drives repression and withdrawal✅ What their indirect attempts to reconnect (like memes or jokes) really mean
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – What Does the Avoidant Do When You Stop Talking to Them? 00:24 – The Four Attachment Styles 01:25 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Feel Relief When They Have Space02:07 – The Cost of Conflict 03:35 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Feel an Increased Sense of Independence 04:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Start Having Mixed Feelings05:47 – 7-Day Free Trial 06:37 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Begin Questioning or Regretting Things07:16 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Will Make Attempts at Reconnection08:39 – What to Do If You're on The Other Side 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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A Secure Person Does THIS When An Avoidant Won't Commit

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When a Dismissive Avoidant pulls back or refuses to commit, it can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and unsure of where you stand. However, a Securely Attached person handles this moment very differently, and their response changes everything.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down how Securely Attached people respond when a Dismissive Avoidant won’t commit — and why it turns the dynamic in their favor. You’ll learn what emotional maturity looks like in action, how to communicate without pressure or people-pleasing, and how to back your needs while staying calm and confident.
You’ll learn:✅ How Securely Attached people handle commitment delays with clarity and self-respect✅ Why understanding different attachment style timelines prevents unnecessary pressure✅ How to communicate needs without triggering defensiveness or withdrawal✅ What boundaries look like when someone stays in the “gray area” too long✅ How standing firm in your standards helps you naturally attract secure love
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Securely Attached vs Dismissive Avoidant & Commitment00:33 – The Unique Timeline for Each Attachment Style & Commitment03:12 – What Would the Securely Attached Person Do?04:36 – 7-Day Free Trial 05:26 – Step 1: Let the Person Know How They Are Feeling08:20 – Step 2: Follow Up With More Clarity and Specificity11:37 – Conclusion
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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When Is a Dismissive Avoidant Actually in Love? 5 Signs

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Most people assume Dismissive Avoidants never fall deeply in love, but they do. The signs just look different. When they start to care, it shows up in subtle, often misunderstood ways that can leave you questioning where you stand.
In this video, Thais Gibson reveals five key signs a Dismissive Avoidant is truly falling for you, and how to recognize the difference between casual affection and genuine emotional investment. You’ll also learn how to respond in ways that build trust, connection, and long-term security.
You’ll learn:✅ How Dismissive Avoidants express love differently from other attachment styles✅ Why slow inclusion in their world signals growing trust and safety✅ What it means when they start opening up emotionally or making future plans✅ How they show care through action instead of words✅ Why their efforts to bridge distance reveal true emotional commitment
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – What Does it Look Like When A Dismissive Avoidant Falls in Love?00:34 – Sign 1: Including You in Their Life01:36 – Sign 2: Opening Up Emotionally03:12 – Sign 3: Making Tangible Long-Term Plans03:41 – Sign 4: Listening and Meeting Your Needs04:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo06:06 – Sign 5: Bridging the Emotional Gap06:53 – These Are Important Signs to Look For
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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5 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Is Secretly Jealous | Thais Gibson

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Most people think Dismissive Avoidants don’t get jealous — but that couldn’t be further from the truth. They do experience jealousy, but it often hides behind sarcasm, withdrawal, or emotional distance.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down five surprising ways jealousy shows up for Dismissive Avoidants — and how to recognize the subtle patterns beneath the surface. You’ll also learn how their fear of vulnerability, shame, and need for control shape the way they express (and suppress) jealousy, and what you can do to respond with empathy and healthy boundaries.
You’ll learn: ✅ The 5 hidden signs of Dismissive Avoidant jealousy ✅ Why sarcasm, withdrawal, or coldness often mask emotional pain ✅ How shame drives their need to self-protect and retreat ✅ Why jealousy triggers both counter-dependence and emotional shutdown ✅ How vulnerability and healthy communication can stop the cycle
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – How Jealously Shows Up for Dismissive Avoidants 00:40 – The Silent Comparison01:42 – Withdrawal Instead of Confrontation03:09 – Sarcasm & Passive Aggression About the Situation05:55 – Ending Codependency Course Promo07:31 – Cold Then Slightly Warmer Behavior08:48 – Shame for Feeling Jealous09:48 – Summary: Jealously Doesn't Look Like Rage or Confrontation
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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Do Not Marry (Or Date) With the Expectation of Changing Your Partner | Thais Gibson

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If you’re hoping your partner will “change” once they fall more in love, get married, or become more committed, you’re not seeing the real person in front of you. You’re falling in love with their potential, and that illusion can quietly destroy intimacy and long-term trust.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down five powerful reasons why dating or marrying for potential leads to emotional disconnection and unmet needs. You’ll learn how to stop confusing fantasy with reality and build a relationship based on truth, acceptance, and emotional safety.
You’ll learn:✅ Why loving someone’s potential disconnects you from true intimacy✅ How projecting an ideal version of your partner creates emotional walls✅ Why “helping them change” often feels like pressure, not love✅ How to communicate your needs without blame or shame✅ What the power struggle stage really means — and how to grow beyond it
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Are You Expecting to Change Your Partner?  00:46 – 1. You Are Seeing a Fantasy of the Person, Not the Person’s Reality02:24 – 2. Hoping Somebody Changes Creates a Silent Pressure in the Relationship03:46 – 3. Learn to Communicate Through Conflict in a Way That is Accepting of Others05:35 – Ending Codependency Course Promo06:09 – 4. Dating the Potential or Expectation of Somebody Ends Up Blocking Intimacy07:40 – 5. Connecting With the Fantasy Keeps You From Building a Proper Foundation08:26 – How is This Meeting A Need in Your Life?09:13 – Summary of Building Healthy Relationships
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant? | Thais Gibson

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If you’re Anxiously Attached or a Fearful Avoidant, you might be unintentionally pushing your Dismissive Avoidant partner away — even when all you want is closeness and reassurance. This painful chase–withdrawal dynamic plays out in countless relationships. But it can be healed once you understand how your patterns trigger theirs.
In this video, Thais Gibson reveals five powerful ways to stop sabotaging your connection with a Dismissive Avoidant partner. You’ll learn how to communicate effectively, self-soothe, and build a relationship that feels safe for both people, without losing your authenticity or needs.
You’ll learn:✅ Why overcommunication can push a Dismissive Avoidant further away✅ How to balance self-soothing with healthy connection✅ The difference between communicating from wounds vs. needs✅ Why criticism breaks trust and what to do instead✅ How to stop assuming space means disinterest✅ The secret to bridging different attachment needs before conflict starts
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Are You Unintentionally Pushing Your Dismissive Avoidant Partner Away? 00:32 – 1. Overcommunicating as a Means to Self-Soothe01:43 – Self-Reflection Question 02:24 – 2. Question Your Expectations and Decide on What You Think is Healthy04:01 – Ending Codependency Course Promo04:45 – 3. Using Criticism to Communicate a Need05:57 – 4. Assuming That Space Means Disinterest08:04 – 5. Discuss Habits That Bridge the Gap in Your Differences09:17 – Summary of Building Connection
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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5 Hard Truths About Being A Fearful Avoidant

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Being a Fearful Avoidant can feel exhausting. You might crave closeness one moment and fear it the next. You might find yourself stuck in cycles of connection and withdrawal, unsure how to stop repeating the same painful patterns in love.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down five hard truths about being a Fearful Avoidant and how to finally overcome them. You’ll learn the deeper psychology behind your push-pull behavior, the hidden self-betrayals that block intimacy, and practical tools to begin healing at the subconscious level.
You’ll learn:✅ Why you crave deep connection but fear vulnerability and loss✅ How early emotional conditioning wires you for both anxiety and avoidance✅ Why overgiving and self-abandonment keep you stuck in one-way relationships✅ How unmet needs and fear of rejection drive emotional exhaustion✅ What rewiring your core wounds actually looks like in daily life
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – The Hard Truths About Being A Fearful Avoidant  00:18 – Hard Truth 1: You Deeply Want Closeness02:21 – Hard Truth 2: You Are Both Anxious and Avoidant03:52 – Hard Truth 3: You Often End Up In One-Way Relationships04:23 – Hard Truth 4: You Don’t Want To Be Vulnerable05:20 – Ending Codependency Course Promo05:54 – Hard Truth 5: You Betray Yourself More Than You Realize06:53 – Next Steps to Healing 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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The Unseen Issues Dismissive Avoidants Face When You’re Away

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Understanding why Dismissive Avoidants sometimes seem distant or unresponsive isn’t about blaming them; it’s about uncovering the subconscious fears and patterns that shape their behavior. 
Recognizing these dynamics is key to setting boundaries, communicating your needs, and fostering healthier, more secure relationships.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the unseen issues Dismissive Avoidants face when you give them space. You'll understand what’s happening beneath the surface, respond constructively, and know whether your relationship can move toward a healthier place.
You’ll learn:✅ How Dismissive Avoidants often operate in a “functional freeze” due to nervous system dysregulation✅ Why their need for space isn’t about you, but about unresolved trauma and subconscious fear of closeness✅ How attachment styles influence reactions to intimacy and distance✅ Why closeness can trigger old fears of neglect, shame, or feeling trapped✅ Practical strategies to find the middle ground: honoring their pace while respecting your own needs✅ How to encourage partners to work on themselves and address trauma around love✅ How to communicate clearly, set boundaries, and recognize patterns of pursuit or withdrawal✅ When to step back and protect your emotional well-being if healthy reciprocity isn’t happening
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro 00:34 – Overview of the AttachmentStyles01:33 – Why Avoidants Chase You When You Pull Away03:36 – 1. Walk the Middle Ground.04:30 – 2. Encourage that Person to Work on Themself.05:36 – Ending Codependency Course Promo06:15 – 3. Help Them While Setting a Deadline07:33 – 4. Communicate Directly08:21 – Conclusion
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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