The Thais Gibson Podcast

How to Overcome BIG TRIGGERS as a Fearful Avoidant

In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into the challenges faced by those with a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, often referred to as disorganized attachment. If you find yourself struggling with intense triggers in your relationships—leading to actions you later regret—this episode is for you. We explore the roots of these emotional responses, the impact of past traumas, and how your subconscious mind plays a role in perpetuating these cycles.Through understanding how triggers work, both emotionally and physiologically, you'll gain insights into why you might feel overwhelmed and stuck in certain situations. We discuss the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses, and how they manifest in those with Fearful Avoidant tendencies.This episode also introduces the BTEA framework—Beliefs, Thoughts, Emotions, Actions—and how you can start identifying and reprogramming your own patterns. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clearer understanding of your triggers and actionable steps to start healing and transforming your relationships.Tune in for a mini-masterclass on overcoming your biggest triggers and reclaiming your emotional balance, and stay tuned for an exercise that will help you map out your personal triggering patterns. Whether you're seeking to stop sabotaging your relationships or simply want to move from a state of surviving to thriving, this episode provides the tools you need to start that journey.Timestamps:00:00:00 - Intro00:02:00 - What Is a Trigger?00:05:36 - What Is Happening In This Triggering Event00:06:14 - Emotions Commonly Felt When Triggered00:06:53 - Fight or Flight Response00:07:38 - The Amygdala and Hypothalamus00:10:15 - Strain that Triggers Put on the Mind and Body00:12:14 - IAT Fall Promo00:13:07 - Exercise: BTEA00:17:47 - 7 Day Free Trial00:18:59 - ConclusionGet personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-08-29-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program.  https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-29-24&el=youtubeFollow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels!YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchoolTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two Ex Avoidants Talk About Having A Phantom Ex | Can This Be Fixed?

In this episode of Can This Be Fixed?, hosts Thais Gibson and Mike Di Zio dive deep into the complexities of attachment styles, particularly focusing on the dynamics of dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles. Drawing from personal experiences and professional insights, they explore the challenges of navigating relationships, the concept of "phantom exes," and the often overlooked inner struggles of those with avoidant tendencies.Mike shares his journey from being a dismissive avoidant to becoming secure, offering a unique perspective on what it's like to look back on past relationships with a new understanding. Thais, on the other hand, provides valuable insights into the fearful avoidant experience, discussing the ambivalence and challenges that come with deepening commitment in relationships.Listeners will gain a better understanding of how unmet needs, defense mechanisms, and communication patterns play crucial roles in shaping relationships. The hosts also tackle a question from their Reddit thread about the best way to suggest learning about attachment styles to a partner without triggering defensiveness or shutting down communication.Whether you're new to the concept of attachment styles or have been exploring them for a while, this episode offers practical advice, heartfelt stories, and strategies to foster healthier, more secure relationships. Tune in to learn how to identify and work through these attachment patterns for a more fulfilling connection with yourself and others.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro01:23 - Regret & Going Back to an Ex (Mike)05:06 - Mike Now, in Secure Attachment07:06 - Regret & Going Back to an Ex (Thais)10:41 - Thais Now, in Secure Attachment13:13 - Avoidants & Friends with Benefits15:08 - Supporting FA Partners Who Fear Commitment18:26 - Supporting DA Partners Who Fear Commitment23:12 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass24:31 - Did Mike Have a Phantom Ex When He Was DA?27:13 - Does Mike Have a Phantom Ex Now as a Secure Attachment?28:52 - Being Friendly with Exes (Mike)35:18 - Did Thais Have a Phantom Ex When She Was FA?39:07 - Has Thais Dated Anyone Who Had a Phantom Ex?43:37 - Mint Mobile44:50 - Quince46:46 - Reddit Question47:25 - Mike’s Response50:28 - Being Introduced to Attachment Theory (Mike)53:25 - Being Introduced to Attachment Theory (Thais)56:42 - Changing Others Isn’t the Answer1:00:00 - Find More Mike DiZio Content1:01:59 - Conclusion Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-26-24&el=podcastGo to http://cozyearth.com/thais and use code THAIS for an exclusive 40% discount.Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisGo to Quince.com/thais for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Overcome Emotional Eating and Live a Healthy Life with Brian Keane

In this episode of the Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into the powerful connection between mind and body, exploring how our mental and emotional well-being is intricately linked to our physical health. Special guest Brian Keane, a nutritionist and personal trainer, shares his personal journey from severe health challenges to holistic healing, emphasizing the importance of nutrition, sleep, and stress management in achieving overall wellness.Discover actionable strategies to improve your diet, regulate your nervous system, and build sustainable lifestyle habits. Whether you're just starting your health journey or looking to refine your approach, this episode provides invaluable insights into how small, mindful changes can lead to lasting transformation. Plus, we tackle the common struggles of emotional eating and offer practical advice on how to develop a healthier relationship with food.Join us for an enlightening conversation that bridges the gap between mental and physical health, and learn how to apply these principles to create a more balanced and fulfilling life. Don't miss out—tune in and start your journey to wellness today!Timestamps:00:00 - Intro00:59 - Brian Keane’s Background06:16 - Brian Keane’s Ulcer10:49 - Getting Started: Sleep13:07 - Improving Sleep Quality17:02 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass17:53 - One Step at a Time21:13 - Diet & Nutrition27:49 - Mint Mobile29:03 - There Is No One-Size-Fits-All35:26 - Prevention & Cure Strategies When Falling Off Track39:06 - Fasting40:28 - What is Autophagy?41:51 - Gut Permeability (a.k.a. Leaky Gut)46:03 - More Brian Keane Content47:38 - Conclusion Find Brian Online:Website: https://briankeanefitness.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_keane_fitnessYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/briankeanefitnessTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@briankeanefitnessFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/briankeanefitnessGet personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-24-24&el=podcastGo to http://cozyearth.com/thais and use code THAIS for an exclusive 40% discount.Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisGo to Quince.com/thais for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is Why Fearful Avoidants Often Choose the Wrong Partner & What to Do!

In this episode of the Thais Gibson Podcast, we delve into the intriguing world of fearful avoidant attachment styles and the complex dynamics that often lead them to choose the wrong partners. Thais Gibson, a leading expert in attachment theory, unpacks the subconscious patterns that drive these choices and explains why those with a fearful avoidant attachment style might find themselves in unstable or chaotic relationships.Thais offers practical strategies for breaking this cycle, focusing on how to retrain your mind and nervous system to create healthier, more fulfilling relationship dynamics. Whether you're navigating the push-pull of wanting love but fearing intimacy, or you're curious about why stable relationships can sometimes feel "boring," this episode provides valuable insights and actionable tools.Listen in to discover how shifting your subconscious comfort zone can help you start choosing partners who truly align with your growth and well-being. If you're ready to transform your relationships and attachment style, this episode is a must-listen. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit from these powerful insights.Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-22-24&el=podcastGo to http://cozyearth.com/thais and use code THAIS for an exclusive 40% discount.Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two Ex Avoidants Share The Hardest Things About Being Avoidant

In this episode of Can This Be Fixed?, hosts Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio dive deep into the complexities of attachment styles, offering personal insights and practical advice for anyone navigating relationships. Both former avoidants who have worked hard to become securely attached, Thais and Mike share their own experiences, discussing how they’ve overcome challenges and what they continue to work on.This episode tackles the tough questions around no contact with dismissive avoidants and how to handle these situations with grace and self-respect. Thais and Mike also discuss the importance of self-awareness in relationships, the journey to secure attachment, and the ongoing work required to maintain healthy connections. Whether you're trying to understand yourself or a loved one better, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to help you on your path.Listeners will also get access to an exclusive workbook to support their personal growth, with exercises focused on rebuilding trust and overcoming jealousy. Join Thais and Mike as they navigate the intricate dynamics of human connection, offering both heartfelt stories and actionable steps to improve your relationships.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro01:59 - Mike’s Personal Shares04:07 - Hidden Blessings10:25 - Mike’s Current Struggles14:43 - Podcast Freebie: Rebuilding Trust16:21 - Thais' Personal Shares18:50 - Overanalyzing & Silver Linings21:25 - How Thais Reprogrammed Her Core Wounds 31:11 - Thais’ Current Struggles34:08 - Unsolicited Advice36:39 - Mint Mobile Promotion38:04 - Reddit Question39:10 - Thais’ Response42:26 - Mike’s Response43:57 - Out of Sight, Out of Mind & Overcoming Fear46:14 - Mike During No Contact (as a DA)49:31 - Rebuilding Connection53:12 - ConclusionDownload Your Rebuilding Trust Workbook Freebie: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast-freebie?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=podcast-freebie&el=podcastCut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healing the Nervous System with Somatics and Self-Care with Victoria Albina

In this insightful episode, we dive deep into the complex relationship between burnout and the nervous system with our guest, Victoria Albina (she/her), a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, and Breathwork Meditation Guide. With over 20 years of experience in health and wellness, Victoria has a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds. Through her work, she empowers individuals to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, reclaiming their joy in the process.Victoria shares her personal journey from struggling with chronic health issues to becoming an expert in public health, functional medicine, and somatics. We discuss the early signs of burnout, the impact of these behavioral patterns on mental and physical health, and practical strategies for healing. Whether you're dealing with chronic stress, exhaustion, or just want to deepen your understanding of holistic health, this episode offers valuable tools and wisdom.Victoria is also the host of the Feminist Wellness podcast and holds a Master’s degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health. She lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro00:39 - Victoria Albina’s Background03:24 - What is the Gut Microbiome?07:22 - When We Put Ourselves Last09:54 - Codependency and Dysregulated Nervous Systems 10:52 - Burnout16:33 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass17:27 - Burnout Is Not a Personal Failing19:54 - Starting Your Healing Journey24:35 - The Dominant Nervous System States27:31 - Mint Mobile Promotion28:44 - State 1: Ventral Vagal29:36 - State 2: Fight or Flight / Sympathetic33:47 - State 3: Fawn34:39 - State 4: Functional Freeze35:39 - How This Leads to Burnout37:38 - Getting Out of Burnout43:11 - Last Pieces of Advice44:47 - Find More Victoria Albina Content46:20 - Conclusion Find Victoria Online:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaalbinawellness/Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022Free Meditations: https://victoriaalbina.com/free-meditations-2/Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-17-24&el=podcastCut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THESE Are the Avoidant’s Biggest Relationship Fears That Make Them Shut Others Out

In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais dives deep into the six major fears of the dismissive avoidant attachment style that cause people with this attachment to shut down, stone wall, pull away, or lose attraction out of the blue.Tune in to learn about these fears, where exactly they come from, and how they manifest in dismissive avoidant relationships. Then, learn specific steps you can take and scripts you can use to combat these fears if you notice them arising in your relationship. A must-watch if you’re looking for practical advice on how to create safety and connection for your dismissive avoidant partner. Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-15-24&el=podcastGo to http://cozyearth.com/thais and use code THAIS for an exclusive 40% discount.Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do Avoidants Always Think the Grass Is Greener?

In this “Can This Be Fixed” episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais is joined by co-host Mike to share their stories and past experiences as former avoidant attachment styles while answering questions from subscribers. What does going through the dating stages feel like for avoidant attachment styles? How can you successfully reconnect with an avoidant attachment after a break-up? And are the things that dismissive avoidants ask for from their partners truly a fair ask?Watch to find out the answers to these questions with plenty of practical advice. Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-08-24&el=podcastGo to http://cozyearth.com/thais and use code THAIS for an exclusive 40% discount.Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisTimestamps00:00 - Intro03:31 - Mike's Dating Story (as a DA)09:09 - Flaw-Finding and the Perfect Partner12:05 - Communicating Expectations with Honesty18:19 - Working on Self-Acceptance20:22 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass21:12 - Reddit Question27:51 - Counterdependency and Subconscious Reactions30:28 - Opening Up About Feelings and Sensitivities35:22 - Mint Mobile Promotion36:36 - When Fear Overpowers Feelings42:01 - Expanding Your Comfort Zone43:16 - Eye Contact46:40 - ConclusionLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heal Anxiety From the Inside Out with Dr. Nicole Cain

In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais is joined by Dr. Nicole Cain, a licensed Naturopathic Doctor with a Master’s in Clinical Psychology who has dedicated her life to helping people heal anxiety rather than “manage” it.Tune in to hear Dr. Cain’s enlightening journey and personal discoveries on healing anxiety, from removing obstacles to resolving and practicing radical acceptance. Stick around for helpful techniques you can use to hack your nervous system and calm your anxiety at any given moment of the day. Find Nicole Online:https://drnicolecain.com/https://www.instagram.com/drnicolecain/ https://www.facebook.com/DrNicoleCain/ Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-08-24&el=podcastGo to http://cozyearth.com/thais and use code THAIS for an exclusive 40% discount.Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisTimestamps00:00 - Intro00:46 - Dr. Nicole Cain’s Background05:07 - Dr. Nicole Cain’s Transformation10:26 - The Obstacle to Cure12:49 - Radical Acceptance15:29 - How to Determine Radical Acceptance17:49 - The Panic Reset20:31 - Step 1 - Calming the Nervous System24:30 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass25:20 - Step 2 - Onboarding Your Wise Mind28:24 - Stop Light Exercise33:42 - Step 3 - Reintegration38:36 - The 3-Minute Hack43:05 - Step 4 - Retraining47:00 - ConclusionLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is the Avoidant’s Idea of A Perfect Relationship

In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks all the burning questions you may have about dismissive avoidants — how to love them, and how not to! What triggers dismissive avoidants the most? What should you avoid doing if you don't want to push them away?On the flipside, what do dismissive avoidants truly desire in a relationship? How can you help them feel satisfied, safe, and at ease so you can get the very best out of them?Tune in to this insightful episode to get inside the mind of the dismissive avoidant.Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-08-24&el=podcastIt’s time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mp-08-08-24&el=podcastGo to http://cozyearth.com/thais and use code THAIS for an exclusive 40% discount.Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com/ThaisTimestamps00:00:00 - Intro00:01:29 - Sensitive to Criticism00:03:15 - Triggered Around Feeling Unsafe00:04:03 - Needs of an Avoidant00:05:17 - Appreciations and Acknowledgement00:06:33 - 7-Day Free Trial: Discover and Embrace Your Needs00:07:01 - The Really Big Needs00:07:47 - IAT Promo00:08:40 - ConclusionLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices