The Thais Gibson Podcast

How to Actually Bond With A Dismissive Avoidant Without Losing Yourself

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How Do You Actually Bond With a Dismissive Avoidant, Without Losing Yourself?
If you’ve ever felt confused, disconnected, or like you’re walking on eggshells in a relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant, this video is for you. Bonding is possible, but only when it’s done in a way that honors both your needs and theirs.
In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the real core needs that make dismissive avoidants feel safe, connected, and bonded, while also showing you how to communicate your own needs without self-abandoning or creating resentment .
In This Video, You’ll Learn:
Why unmet needs quietly starve relationships over timeWhat Dismissive Avoidants are truly afraid of in closenessHow to communicate needs without triggering withdrawalWhy appreciation, empathy, and understanding matter more than grand gesturesHow safety, stability, and certainty create lasting emotional bonds
Key Takeaways:
✔ Dismissive Avoidants bond through clear boundaries, autonomy, and emotional safety✔ Concrete communication prevents misunderstandings and fear-based withdrawal✔ Appreciation works best when it’s sincere, specific, and grounded✔ Empathy and understanding meet deep unmet inner-child needs✔ Healthy relationships require mutual needs to be acknowledged and met
⏱ Timestamps:
00:00 – What Makes Dismissive Avoidants Feel Bonded?01:26 – The Significance of Needs03:04 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Need a Sense of Autonomy, Independence, and Freedom05:17 – Needs Course Promo06:10 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Want to Feel Understanding in the Relationship07:16 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Need Appreciation and Acknowledgement09:17 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Need Empathy10:09 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Need Certainty, Stability, and Safety
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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Fearful Avoidant | The Childhood Pain That Nobody Talks About (HOW TO HEAL!)

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The Fearful Avoidant attachment style is often labelled as unpredictable, confusing, or “mixed signals.” But behind the push-pull, the self-protection, and the sudden emotional shifts is something deeper: hidden childhood pain and conditioning that never got healed.
This video uncovers that pain — the chaos, broken trust, abandonment fears, and betrayal wounds that wire the subconscious nervous system to equate love with danger. You’ll learn how conditioning forms, why your nervous system responds before you’re even conscious of it, and how ancient wisdom + neuroscience come together to create a practical path forward.
Most importantly, we walk through a step-by-step exercise to rewire the core wounds Fearful Avoidants carry, and finally stop reliving the emotional past in the present.
You’ll learn:✅ The childhood patterns that shape Fearful Avoidant attachment✅ Why your nervous system reacts before you can think✅ How conditioning becomes identity — and how to break that link✅ What ancient traditions teach about non-attachment and self-awareness✅ Why observing your conditioning changes your relationship to it✅ A powerful rewiring method to release abandonment, betrayal, and unworthiness✅ How repetition and emotion reprogram core beliefs stored since childhood
Episode Breakdown:00:00 – The Inner Childhood Pain of the Fearful Avoidant02:28 – Fearful Avoidants Experience Chaos in Childhood04:43 – Conditioning Shapes Our Identity06:48 – Needs Course Promo04:23 – Express Your Needs Early On07:14 – Pavlovian Conditioning: Pavlov’s Dog 09:42 – How Our Conditioning Can Affect Our Nervous System13:14 – The Avenues to Healing 15:36 – Non-Attachment and the Observer 19:09 – Ancient Wisdom on Clinging to Our Conditioning 22:16 – Rumi: “Out Beyond Ideas of Wrongdoing and Rightdoing”23:37 – Transcendence VS Rewiring25:14 – Belief Reprogramming – Step 1: Write Down Your Wounds and Fears26:37 – Step 2: Find the Opposite of Your Wound or Fear27:28 – Step 3: Come Up With 10 Pieces of Evidence Why This New Idea is Possible  28:23 – Your Subconscious Mind Speaks In Emotions and Imagery31:22 – Record and Listen Back for 21 Days32:18 – Bowl of Light 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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The MUST-KNOW Core Wounds of A FEARFUL AVOIDANT for True Healing

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If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting love and fearing it at the same time, this episode is for you. Join Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, for a powerful deep dive into the core wounds of the Fearful Avoidant (FA) attachment style and what it really takes to heal them.
You’ll discover how FAs develop conflicting subconscious beliefs about connection, trust, and vulnerability and how those beliefs drive push-pull patterns, emotional burnout, and relationship anxiety. Thais shares her proven framework for identifying and reprogramming your own wounds so you can finally feel safe giving and receiving love.
💡 You’ll Learn:The core wounds that keep fearful avoidants stuck in painful patternsHow to recognize the signs of conflicted attachment behaviorWhy your nervous system gets triggered during intimacy and distancePractical steps to reprogram fear-based beliefs and build inner safetyHow to use somatic tools to regulate emotions in real timeA step-by-step approach to becoming a secure, emotionally available partner
Key Takeaway:Healing as a fearful avoidant starts with understanding your core wounds, but true transformation happens when you reprogram your nervous system and beliefs to feel safe in connection.
🎙️ Meet Your HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory™. With a Ph.D. and over 70,000 students worldwide, she teaches emotional mastery, subconscious reprogramming, and secure relationship skills.
📚 Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📘 Read Learning Love by Thais Gibsonhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love
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Dismissive Avoidants: How They Bond Emotionally & Physically

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Many people misunderstand what sex and intimacy mean to a Dismissive Avoidant — assuming distance, shutdowns, or withdrawal are signs of disinterest. But neuroscience shows that Dismissive Avoidants bond through intimacy in very unique ways, and their core wounds around vulnerability deeply shape how they connect emotionally and physically.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down what happens in the mind, body, and nervous system of a Dismissive Avoidant during sex and connection. You’ll learn why intimacy activates old subconscious programming, why vulnerability can trigger fear, and how to build a safer foundation for physical and emotional closeness.
You’ll learn:✅ Why vulnerability activates core wounds like “I am unsafe” and “I am defective”✅ How emotional intimacy can trigger shutdown after closeness✅ Why pressure or expectations around sex lead to withdrawal✅ How shame becomes subconsciously associated with intimacy✅ The role of childhood emotional neglect in adult sexual dynamics✅ How fear of inadequacy impacts desire and presence✅ What partners can do to communicate without triggering shutdown
Episode Breakdown:00:00 – What Happens to Dismissive Avoidants Around Sex and Intimacy01:00 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Have Big Core Wounds Around Intimacy01:35 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are Afraid of Feeling Trapped, Helpless or Pressured02:50 – Needs Course Promo03:17 – When There is a Lot of Vulnerability Around Sex03:56 – If There is Pressure Around Sex04:27 – When Sex Becomes Less Frequent or Creates Problems05:17 – If They Feel Criticized About Sex05:32 – When They Feel Incapable of Meeting Their Partner's Needs06:04 – If They Are Critical About Themselves06:22 – Do You Have Any Questions?
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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Dismissive Avoidant Breadcrumbing: What You Need to Know

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If you’re tired of feeling confused, undervalued, or “left hanging” by someone who only gives you just enough to keep you around, this episode breaks down the psychology of Dismissive Avoidant breadcrumbing.
Thais Gibson explains the deeper emotional and subconscious roots of breadcrumbing within the Dismissive Avoidant attachment style, including how their childhood emotional neglect creates a comfort zone around emotional scarcity. She also reveals why people on the receiving end of breadcrumbing often feel “stuck,” and how this dynamic stems from their own learned comfort with neglect.
You’ll walk away with practical tools to recondition your subconscious comfort zone, shift limiting beliefs, rebuild your standards, and create a relationship model based on mutual nourishment rather than deprivation.
You'll learn: ✅ What breadcrumbing actually is and why it’s so common with Dismissive Avoidants✅ How childhood emotional neglect creates an Avoidant's “breadcrumb comfort zone”✅ Why trauma spreads through patterns, not intention✅ How Dismissive Avoidants can stop breadcrumbing by learning to stop breadcrumbing themselves✅ Why people who accept breadcrumbs usually have their own comfort zone of neglect✅ How to recondition your subconscious to expect, and accept, real emotional nourishment✅ The role of boundaries, standards, and self-worth in stopping the cycle✅ Why identifying your needs changes your entire dating experience
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Are You Being Breadcrumbed by a Dismissive Avoidant?02:34 – Why We Accept Breadcrumbs: Subconscious Comfort Zones05:15 – Dismissive Avoidants Must Stop Breadcrumbing Themselves06:37 – Giving Yourself What You're Not Receiving Externally08:22 – Needs Course Promo08:47 – Why You Stay in Breadcrumbing Dynamics09:26 – Boundaries as a Declaration of Your Self Worth
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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Signs a Dismissive Avoidant Is in Limerence

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Can a Dismissive Avoidant actually become secretly obsessed with you?
In this vulnerable episode, Mike opens up about a real-life limerence experience, revealing what Dismissive Avoidant infatuation truly looks like from the inside. If you’ve ever wondered whether a Dismissive Avoidant is thinking about you more than they let on… this episode will give you clarity, compassion, and surprising insight.
Today we’re diving into the 6 key signs a Dismissive Avoidant is secretly obsessed with you and why dismissive avoidants can experience deep limerence even when they appear emotionally distant. Mike shares a personal story of unexpected intense infatuation, how unmet needs and repressed traits triggered limerence, and the subtle ways Dismissive Avoidants try to connect without revealing too much. We also break down the psychology of limerence, why it hits so hard, and which attachment style tends to experience celebrity-crush limerence the most.
Dismissive Avoidants do experience limerence, often intensely, but privately.
Dismissive Avoidant limerence is usually triggered when someone reflects their deeply repressed traits or meets long-standing unmet needs such as acceptance, attunement, and emotional support.
Signs of Dismissive Avoidant obsession often show up indirectly (liking all your posts, asking deep questions early, staring from a distance, subtle attempts to “bump into you”).
Limerence becomes soothing for Dismissive Avoidants, a way to experience emotional intensity without vulnerability.
Dismissive Avoidant women are the most likely group to develop strong celebrity-crush limerence.
True connection requires moving from fantasy to authenticity and learning to meet your needs more directly.
👥 ABOUT THE HOSTS
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a leading expert in Attachment Theory and integrative emotional healing.Mike is a former Dismissive Avoidant who openly shares his experiences to help others understand attachment dynamics and healing.
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Find Your Biggest Attachment Triggers | Live Masterclass with Thais Gibson

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In this special live Q&A, Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, walks you through the practical process of identifying your core wounds and attachment triggers — the hidden emotional patterns that drive your reactions, fears, and relationship dynamics.
Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, you’ll learn how to decode emotional triggers, understand their root causes, and start reprogramming them at the subconscious level. Thais also answers audience questions in real time, helping listeners uncover their most powerful healing opportunities.
🎙️ Meet Your HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory™. With a Ph.D. and more than 70,000 students worldwide, she teaches emotional intelligence, subconscious reprogramming, and secure relationship skills.
📚 Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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When A Dismissive Avoidant Argues with An Anxious Attachment Style

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When you love someone deeply but every argument feels like hitting the same wall — one partner chasing, the other shutting down — it can be excruciating. You want connection and resolution, but every attempt only pushes you further apart.
In this episode, Thais Gibson reveals five crucial steps to break free from the Anxious–Dismissive Avoidant argument cycle. You’ll learn how to de-escalate conflict, communicate your needs without triggering defenses, and turn disagreement into emotional closeness and repair.
You’ll learn:✅ The core triggers for both Anxious and Dismissive Avoidant partners✅ How to identify emotional patterns that keep you stuck in painful cycles✅ A powerful somatic technique to calm your body during conflict✅ The “one topic per conversation” rule that prevents spiraling arguments✅ The step-by-step framework for validation, communication, and resolution✅ Why learning your needs — and expressing them — transforms every relationship
Episode Breakdown:00:00 – When A Dismissive Avoidant Argues with An Anxious Attachment Style01:30 – 5 Steps To Change How You See Conflict02:27 – Step 1. Know Your Triggers.02:53 – Anxious Attachment Style Biggest Core Wounds03:20 – Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Biggest Core Wounds04:48 – Step 2. Practice a Somatic Processing Skill05:25 – Research on Triggering Experiences06:54 – Step 3. Stick To One Topic Per Conversation07:26 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo08:15 – Steps 4 & 5. The Validation, Need, Validation Framework09:20 – Locked in Trigger Cycles10:00 – Framework for Conflict Resolution11:50 – Arguing Isn't About Right or Wrong 12:26 – Announcement: New Livestream Podcast!
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📚 Read the Learning Love Bookhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
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What Happens When a Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant Shuts You Out

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When someone you love suddenly shuts down and says “I’m fine,” it can be confusing, painful, and triggering — especially if you know something’s off. In this episode, Thais Gibson and Mike de Zio dive deep into what’s really happening when a dismissive avoidant (DA) or fearful avoidant (FA) pulls away.
They explore how shutting down is rarely about spite or indifference — it’s a subconscious protection strategy. Through personal stories and actionable steps, Thais and Mike explain how to understand these patterns, respond without pushing your partner away, and create safety for honest reconnection.
💡 You’ll Learn:
Why dismissive and fearful avoidants withdraw when they’re hurt
The 6 key steps to reconnect without triggering defensiveness
How to validate your partner’s needs without abandoning your own
What to say (and not say) when they need space
How to rebuild communication, empathy, and safety in conflict
Why clearly expressing your needs is a vital part of healing
🕓 Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro: Why avoidants “shut down” during conflict03:00 – Understanding Avoidant Protection Mechanisms06:10 – Thais’ Past Experience as a Fearful Avoidant07:45 – Why Avoidants Retreat When Hurt09:03 – Emotional Safety vs. Pressure in Relationships11:00 – How to Support a Dismissive Avoidant Without Overstepping13:05 – The Power of Asking Gentle Questions16:12 – How Opposite Needs Create Miscommunication19:00 – Is It Okay to Sleep on an Argument?21:15 – Reassurance, Timing, and the Hybrid Approach22:30 – Step 1: Approach Them With Sensitivity24:45 – Step 2: Offer Support Without Pressure27:00 – Step 3: “Timebox” the Conversation30:19 – Step 4: How to Reconnect When They’re Ready33:10 – Step 5: Communicate Needs Clearly & Calmly36:00 – Step 6: Take Your Own Needs Into Account38:00 – Why Communicating Your Needs Builds Emotional Safety41:00 – Healthy Conflict vs. Avoidance44:30 – How Validation and Compromise Foster Secure Attachment46:00 – Final Reflections: Reconnecting After Withdrawal
Key Takeaway:
Avoidants don’t shut you out because they don’t care — they do it because vulnerability feels unsafe. The more you understand their patterns and communicate your own needs clearly, the faster you both can reconnect from a place of empathy, not defense.
🎙️ Meet Your HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory™. With a Ph.D. and over 70,000 students worldwide, she’s a global expert in attachment healing, subconscious reprogramming, and emotional intelligence.
📚 Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quizhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast
📘 Read Learning Love by Thais Gibsonhttps://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love
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Remember: Silence doesn’t always mean disinterest — sometimes, it’s protection. Learn how to bridge the gap with compassion and clarity. 💗

Dismissive Avoidant & Fearful Avoidant Fights - THIS ONE THING Changes Everything

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When a Fearful Avoidant and a Dismissive Avoidant enter conflict, the emotional fallout can feel explosive, confusing, and deeply painful. One partner feels overwhelmed and unheard, while the other shuts down and retreats — and neither realizes what’s actually happening beneath the surface.
In this mini masterclass, Thais Gibson breaks down the hidden dynamics driving Fearful Avoidant–Dismissive Avoidant conflicts, the subconscious wounds fueling these reactions, and why these cycles repeat until you learn to see them differently. You’ll finally understand what each partner is experiencing internally, and what has to shift to break the pattern for good.
You’ll learn:✅ The core wounds that shape Fearful Avoidant and Dismissive Avoidant conflict✅ Why Fearful Avoidants over-give, under-receive, and burn out emotionally✅ How covert contracts lead to resentment and misinterpretation✅ The Dismissive Avoidant perspective: why criticism triggers their deepest shame wounds✅ What each partner actually feels but doesn’t say during conflict✅ How miscommunication fuels the pursuit-and-withdrawal cycle
Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – The Fearful Avoidant & Dismissive Avoidant Relationship Cycle 02:13 – Fearful Avoidants Tend to Over-give and Over-deliver in Relationships02:56 – Fearful Avoidants & Covert Contracts 04:26 – Black Friday: Somatic Processing Course Promo 05:12 – Core Wounds of the Fearful Avoidant 05:47 – Core Wounds of the Dismissive Avoidant 06:59 – Miscommunication Between the Two09:12 – Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Shutdowns 10:29 –  If You Don’t Communicate in a Healthy Way, Your Words Will Fall on Deaf Ears.11:35 –  The Next Mini Masterclass 
Meet the HostThais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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