The Thais Gibson Podcast

Why Do Avoidant Attachment Styles Ghost And How to Move On!

Discover the keys to overcoming pain, apply post-traumatic growth principles, and reprogram your subconscious with the "How to Heal From a Breakup" course. Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-11-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-11-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive into the complex dynamics of ghosting, focusing on the behavior patterns of dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles.Join Thais and her co-host, Mike, as they unpack why dismissive avoidants often ghost during dating and relationships, shedding light on common misconceptions and the deeper fears that drive this behavior. They discuss the role of online dating culture in normalizing ghosting and how attachment wounds play a part in avoiding confrontation or difficult conversations.The episode explores ghosting across different relationship stages, from early dating to long-term commitments, and the unique reasons why avoidant types may disengage without explanation. Thais shares personal stories and offers compassionate advice on how to handle being ghosted, focusing on self-worth and emotional healing.Listeners will learn actionable steps to heal from the pain of ghosting, including how to reframe the experience, understand the attachment patterns at play, and build resilience. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has faced ghosting or wants to deepen their understanding of attachment theory in modern relationships.Timestamps:00:00:00 - Intro00:00:30 - Welcome & Introduction of Guest and Topic00:01:18 - Overview of Avoidant Attachment Styles and Ghosting00:02:50 - Online Dating Culture and Ghosting00:05:18 - The Stages of Relationships and Ghosting at Each Stage00:10:08 - Communication Challenges: Why People Ghost00:13:09 - Handling the Emotional Impact of Being Ghosted00:18:02 - Personal Story: The Experience of Being Ghosted00:24:45 - Ghosting in Long-Term Relationships and the Consequences00:28:46 - 14-Day Free Trial Mention for Healing Resources00:30:18 - Ghosting by Fearful Avoidants: Personal Experiences00:39:05 - Healing Strategies for the Anxious Attachment Style00:44:08 - Balancing Reciprocity in Relationships00:54:44 - Understanding Self-Worth in the Context of Ghosting00:55:00 - Outro & Final ThoughtsGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Early Dating & Texting Expectations of Each Attachment Style

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-09-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-09-24&el=podcastJoin us for an in-depth exploration of attachment styles and relationship dynamics!In this episode, we dive into the communication patterns of different attachment styles—especially how dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and anxious styles approach calling, texting, and the challenges of early dating.Discover actionable insights on finding healthy compromises, spotting green flags when a partner is truly doing the work, and strengthening your own attachment style.Plus, learn powerful ways to foster secure, confident connections with science-backed tools for a more fulfilling relationship journey.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro02:45- DA Texting & Calling Recap08:23 - Share Your Needs With DAs14:19 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass15:11 - Share Your Needs With DAs Cont’d21:58 - Live Exercise: DA34:41 - Hello Fresh36:09 - Live Exercise: FA41:02 - Live Exercise: AP43:24 - FAs and Rushing Relationship Milestones48:18 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification 49:29 - FAs and Phone Calls53:53 - Ideal Quality Time for DAs in Dating56:02 - Ideal Quality Time for FAs in Dating58:35 - Why Don't APs Date Other APs?1:06:14 - DAs and Drinking1:08:28 - Conclusion Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is How Avoidants Get You Addicted to Them

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-07-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-07-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, we dive into the addictive cycle of attachment to avoidant partners.If you've ever found yourself caught in the emotional highs and lows of a relationship, where one day you’re close and the next they’re distant, this episode is for you.Host Thais Gibson, a coach and counselor with over a decade of experience in attachment theory, unpacks the psychological mechanisms that keep people hooked on avoidant partners.By exploring groundbreaking studies, Thais reveals how intermittent reinforcement affects our brains similarly to gambling or substance addiction, creating an emotional dependency.Listen in to understand why these dynamics feel so hard to break, and learn practical steps to regain control of your emotions and move toward secure, fulfilling relationships.Stick around for tools on reprogramming core wounds and identifying your own unmet needs, empowering you to break free from self-abandonment and avoid the breadcrumb relationships.Tune in, take back your life, and discover how to move towards authentic connection.Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is How A Secure Person Reacts to Their Ex Moving On

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastFeeling thrown off balance when your ex moves on?Securely attached individuals may feel nostalgic, but they process breakups without lingering pain or self-doubt.In this episode, we dive into how secure attachment styles handle seeing an ex move on by meeting their own needs, avoiding core wound projections, and gaining healthy closure.Ready to understand your own attachment style and discover how to make breakups easier on your heart?Tune in for insights on emotional resilience, plus actionable tips to foster secure attachment behaviors in yourself!Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Avoidants Avoid Commitments & How to Know If an Avoidant Will Heal!

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastJoin Thais Gibson and Mike in this deep-dive discussion into attachment theory, where they unpack why dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles may struggle with future planning and commitments.They reveal the significance of co-regulation in relationships, especially for individuals with avoidant tendencies, and how it can foster comfort in deeper connections.The episode also explores how anxious attachment styles intersect with avoidant partners and shares tools for each attachment type to work towards secure, fulfilling relationships.Listen in to understand why attachment dynamics influence relationship behaviors and to gain actionable advice on building trust and intimacy through vulnerability and self-awareness.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro03:16 - Planning for the Future: FA15:32 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass16:22 - Planning For the Future: DA24:03- Expectation for Intimacy26:12 - Signs of Healing28:30 - Co-regulation38:17 - Hello Fresh39:45 - YouTube Question: Mike (DA) & What Led Him to Change53:07 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification54:17 - YouTube Question: Thais (AP)1:00:47 - YouTube Question: Thais (FA)1:03:04 - What Led Thais to Change1:09:07 - Victim Mentality & Accountability1:16:49 - Conclusion Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is Why Avoidant Attachment Styles End Up in SHORT Term Relationships

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-02-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-02-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into the unique dynamics of dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles in relationships.Join Thais and her co-host, Mike, as they explore why these attachment types often experience shorter relationships and uncover the specific reasons behind relationship patterns such as the “six-month breakup” or the challenges around the one-to-two-year mark.They discuss how attachment wounds impact relationship stages, from initial dating to the honeymoon phase, and the power struggle that can make or break connections.Listeners will gain insights into core attachment fears—like the fear of abandonment or the need for personal space—and how they shape communication patterns, including texting frequency, phone calls, and managing expectations in relationships.With personal anecdotes and practical advice, Thais and her co-host provide a roadmap for both avoidants and those who love them to navigate the complexities of relationship dynamics.This episode is perfect for anyone wanting to understand attachment styles more deeply or seeking healthier, more fulfilling connections.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro02:37 - Common Themes For DAs and Short-Term Relationships15:55 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass16:45 - Check-Ins20:38 - Leaving When It’s Not Working Out23:43 - Casual Relationships27:48 - Hello Fresh23:43 - Casual Relationships (Cont’d)32:37 - Common Themes For FAs and Short-Term Relationships42:50 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification44:00 - Communication Expectations54:27 - Texting Ideals56:06 - Conclusion Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is How A Secure Person Reacts to Being Ignored

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-31-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-31-24&el=podcastIn this episode, we explore how securely attached individuals handle being ignored in relationships without spiraling into anxiety or self-doubt.Host Thais Gibson reveals five key strategies that secure people use to stay calm, grounded, and self-assured in uncertain situations.Learn how secure attachment patterns can help you avoid overthinking, communicate needs effectively, and maintain self-worth, even when someone doesn’t respond as expected.Perfect for anyone looking to transform attachment patterns, this episode offers insights and tools to build healthier, more resilient relationships.Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If The Anxious Attachment Style Was Honest...

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-29-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-29-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into the hidden fears and desires of those with an anxious attachment style.Host Thais Gibson and guest experts explore what it would look like if individuals with anxious attachments could openly express their needs, discuss how consistent reassurance can create a sense of security, and share ways to break free from self-silencing habits.Through honest conversation, we uncover seven truths about anxious attachment, offering strategies to foster deeper connection, personal growth, and balanced communication.Perfect for anyone on a journey of understanding attachment dynamics, this episode equips listeners with tools to transform anxious patterns and move toward secure attachment in relationships.Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is What A Fearful Avoidant THINKS They Need to Be Happy

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-28-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-28-24&el=podcastIn this episode, join Thais and co-host Mike as they dive deep into attachment styles, particularly focusing on the dynamics and hidden desires of the Fearful Avoidant (FA) attachment style.Together, they unpack how core attachment wounds influence the FA’s need for control, their oscillation between connection and independence, and the challenges they face in effectively communicating needs.Whether you’re an FA, in a relationship with one, or simply interested in attachment styles, this episode offers valuable insights, practical advice, and a deeper understanding of attachment-driven relationship dynamics. Tune in for relatable experiences, expert advice, and strategies to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Timestamps00:00 - Intro01:53 - What FAs Want in Relationships: Knowing What They Want15:22 - All or Nothing Thinking16:52 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass18:23 - Help Carrying the Load24:17 - Healing Can Increase Energy28:30 - Why FAs Don't Burn Out as Much29:55 - Some Coping Mechanisms Can Drain Your Energy31:35 - Hello Fresh33:02 - Respecting Need for Space41:36 - Someone Who Isn't Controlling43:55 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification45:05 - Letting Go of Control55:00 - Hot & Cold Emotions1:02:44 - How Many of Us Are FA?1:06:23 - Mike’s Perception of FA Traits as a Former DA1:10:23 - ConclusionGet FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You A High-Functioning Codependent? With Terri Cole

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-26-24&el=podcastIn this exciting episode, we sit down with psychotherapist and empowerment expert Terri Cole to explore the powerful concept of high-functioning codependency—a pattern that often affects anxious attachment styles, fearful avoidants, and even dismissive avoidants.Terri shares her insights from over 20 years of experience, blending practical psychology with Eastern mindfulness, and explains how these patterns manifest in relationships.We dive deep into the signs, symptoms, and impacts of high-functioning codependency, while offering actionable steps to create empowered change.Whether you're looking to transform your own relationships or better understand your attachment style, this episode provides valuable guidance for personal growth and sustainable change.Timestamps00:00 - Intro02:31 - Terri Cole’s Backstory05:38 - High-Functioning Codependency08:51 - When Another's Pain Causes You Pain16:18 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass15:14 - Hyper-Independence26:02 - The Benefits of Healing27:23 - Hello Fresh30:13 - Solving Their Pain Serves Us Short Term34:18 - Starting to Heal39:25 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification40:37 - The Relationship With Yourself44:52 - Transforming Yourself Will Transform Your Relationships48:00 - Find More Terri Cole Content49:17 - ConclusionGet FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Terri Online:Website: https://www.terricole.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@terri_coleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricoleFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices