The Thais Gibson Podcast

THIS Is How Avoidants Get You Addicted to Them

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-07-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-07-24&el=podcastIn this insightful episode, we dive into the addictive cycle of attachment to avoidant partners.If you've ever found yourself caught in the emotional highs and lows of a relationship, where one day you’re close and the next they’re distant, this episode is for you.Host Thais Gibson, a coach and counselor with over a decade of experience in attachment theory, unpacks the psychological mechanisms that keep people hooked on avoidant partners.By exploring groundbreaking studies, Thais reveals how intermittent reinforcement affects our brains similarly to gambling or substance addiction, creating an emotional dependency.Listen in to understand why these dynamics feel so hard to break, and learn practical steps to regain control of your emotions and move toward secure, fulfilling relationships.Stick around for tools on reprogramming core wounds and identifying your own unmet needs, empowering you to break free from self-abandonment and avoid the breadcrumb relationships.Tune in, take back your life, and discover how to move towards authentic connection.Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is How A Secure Person Reacts to Their Ex Moving On

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastFeeling thrown off balance when your ex moves on?Securely attached individuals may feel nostalgic, but they process breakups without lingering pain or self-doubt.In this episode, we dive into how secure attachment styles handle seeing an ex move on by meeting their own needs, avoiding core wound projections, and gaining healthy closure.Ready to understand your own attachment style and discover how to make breakups easier on your heart?Tune in for insights on emotional resilience, plus actionable tips to foster secure attachment behaviors in yourself!Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Avoidants Avoid Commitments & How to Know If an Avoidant Will Heal!

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcastJoin Thais Gibson and Mike in this deep-dive discussion into attachment theory, where they unpack why dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles may struggle with future planning and commitments.They reveal the significance of co-regulation in relationships, especially for individuals with avoidant tendencies, and how it can foster comfort in deeper connections.The episode also explores how anxious attachment styles intersect with avoidant partners and shares tools for each attachment type to work towards secure, fulfilling relationships.Listen in to understand why attachment dynamics influence relationship behaviors and to gain actionable advice on building trust and intimacy through vulnerability and self-awareness.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro03:16 - Planning for the Future: FA15:32 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass16:22 - Planning For the Future: DA24:03- Expectation for Intimacy26:12 - Signs of Healing28:30 - Co-regulation38:17 - Hello Fresh39:45 - YouTube Question: Mike (DA) & What Led Him to Change53:07 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification54:17 - YouTube Question: Thais (AP)1:00:47 - YouTube Question: Thais (FA)1:03:04 - What Led Thais to Change1:09:07 - Victim Mentality & Accountability1:16:49 - Conclusion Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is Why Avoidant Attachment Styles End Up in SHORT Term Relationships

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-02-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-02-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into the unique dynamics of dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles in relationships.Join Thais and her co-host, Mike, as they explore why these attachment types often experience shorter relationships and uncover the specific reasons behind relationship patterns such as the “six-month breakup” or the challenges around the one-to-two-year mark.They discuss how attachment wounds impact relationship stages, from initial dating to the honeymoon phase, and the power struggle that can make or break connections.Listeners will gain insights into core attachment fears—like the fear of abandonment or the need for personal space—and how they shape communication patterns, including texting frequency, phone calls, and managing expectations in relationships.With personal anecdotes and practical advice, Thais and her co-host provide a roadmap for both avoidants and those who love them to navigate the complexities of relationship dynamics.This episode is perfect for anyone wanting to understand attachment styles more deeply or seeking healthier, more fulfilling connections.Timestamps:00:00 - Intro02:37 - Common Themes For DAs and Short-Term Relationships15:55 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass16:45 - Check-Ins20:38 - Leaving When It’s Not Working Out23:43 - Casual Relationships27:48 - Hello Fresh23:43 - Casual Relationships (Cont’d)32:37 - Common Themes For FAs and Short-Term Relationships42:50 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification44:00 - Communication Expectations54:27 - Texting Ideals56:06 - Conclusion Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is How A Secure Person Reacts to Being Ignored

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-31-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-31-24&el=podcastIn this episode, we explore how securely attached individuals handle being ignored in relationships without spiraling into anxiety or self-doubt.Host Thais Gibson reveals five key strategies that secure people use to stay calm, grounded, and self-assured in uncertain situations.Learn how secure attachment patterns can help you avoid overthinking, communicate needs effectively, and maintain self-worth, even when someone doesn’t respond as expected.Perfect for anyone looking to transform attachment patterns, this episode offers insights and tools to build healthier, more resilient relationships.Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If The Anxious Attachment Style Was Honest...

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-29-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-29-24&el=podcastIn this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into the hidden fears and desires of those with an anxious attachment style.Host Thais Gibson and guest experts explore what it would look like if individuals with anxious attachments could openly express their needs, discuss how consistent reassurance can create a sense of security, and share ways to break free from self-silencing habits.Through honest conversation, we uncover seven truths about anxious attachment, offering strategies to foster deeper connection, personal growth, and balanced communication.Perfect for anyone on a journey of understanding attachment dynamics, this episode equips listeners with tools to transform anxious patterns and move toward secure attachment in relationships.Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

THIS Is What A Fearful Avoidant THINKS They Need to Be Happy

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-28-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-28-24&el=podcastIn this episode, join Thais and co-host Mike as they dive deep into attachment styles, particularly focusing on the dynamics and hidden desires of the Fearful Avoidant (FA) attachment style.Together, they unpack how core attachment wounds influence the FA’s need for control, their oscillation between connection and independence, and the challenges they face in effectively communicating needs.Whether you’re an FA, in a relationship with one, or simply interested in attachment styles, this episode offers valuable insights, practical advice, and a deeper understanding of attachment-driven relationship dynamics. Tune in for relatable experiences, expert advice, and strategies to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Timestamps00:00 - Intro01:53 - What FAs Want in Relationships: Knowing What They Want15:22 - All or Nothing Thinking16:52 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass18:23 - Help Carrying the Load24:17 - Healing Can Increase Energy28:30 - Why FAs Don't Burn Out as Much29:55 - Some Coping Mechanisms Can Drain Your Energy31:35 - Hello Fresh33:02 - Respecting Need for Space41:36 - Someone Who Isn't Controlling43:55 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification45:05 - Letting Go of Control55:00 - Hot & Cold Emotions1:02:44 - How Many of Us Are FA?1:06:23 - Mike’s Perception of FA Traits as a Former DA1:10:23 - ConclusionGet FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisGet Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike:https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Mike Online:https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You A High-Functioning Codependent? With Terri Cole

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-26-24&el=podcastIn this exciting episode, we sit down with psychotherapist and empowerment expert Terri Cole to explore the powerful concept of high-functioning codependency—a pattern that often affects anxious attachment styles, fearful avoidants, and even dismissive avoidants.Terri shares her insights from over 20 years of experience, blending practical psychology with Eastern mindfulness, and explains how these patterns manifest in relationships.We dive deep into the signs, symptoms, and impacts of high-functioning codependency, while offering actionable steps to create empowered change.Whether you're looking to transform your own relationships or better understand your attachment style, this episode provides valuable guidance for personal growth and sustainable change.Timestamps00:00 - Intro02:31 - Terri Cole’s Backstory05:38 - High-Functioning Codependency08:51 - When Another's Pain Causes You Pain16:18 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass15:14 - Hyper-Independence26:02 - The Benefits of Healing27:23 - Hello Fresh30:13 - Solving Their Pain Serves Us Short Term34:18 - Starting to Heal39:25 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification40:37 - The Relationship With Yourself44:52 - Transforming Yourself Will Transform Your Relationships48:00 - Find More Terri Cole Content49:17 - ConclusionGet FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethaisLet’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/Find Terri Online:Website: https://www.terricole.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@terri_coleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricoleFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/#TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When The Avoidant Thinks They’re Better Off Alone - THESE 4 Questions Change Everything

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-24-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-24-24&el=podcastIn this episode, we dive into a common struggle faced by avoidant attachment styles: the feeling that they might be better off alone.Avoidants often question whether their fear of vulnerability and emotional connection outweighs the value of meaningful relationships. We explore four powerful questions that can help avoidants shift their mindset, break the cycle of self-sabotage, and foster deeper, healthier connections.Whether you're the avoidant or the partner of one, these insights offer practical tools to strengthen your relationships and avoid emotional withdrawal. Tune in to discover how to create lasting change and stay connected even when fears arise.Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dismissive Avoidant Vs. Fearful Avoidant - Key Similarities, Differences & Their Relationship Needs!

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-10-21-24&el=podcastBecome a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-10-21-24&el=podcastHave you ever found yourself or someone close to you pulling away in a relationship? Is it disinterest, or could it be rooted in attachment style?In this episode, we dive deep into two common insecure attachment styles: Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant. We explore their key differences, surprising similarities, and how these patterns can influence love, friendships, and family dynamics.Learn how these attachment styles form, the emotional struggles they face, and how to recognize these behaviors in yourself or loved ones.Plus, we’ll share insights into how you can heal from these attachment styles to cultivate healthier, more secure relationships. Whether you're on a journey of self-discovery or seeking to better understand others, this episode offers actionable tips to support relationship growth and emotional healing.Let’s connect!https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibsonhttps://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices